(Closed) tips and strategies to remain present and enjoy your wedding day

posted 4 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
Member
8674 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

get a DOC.  I enjoyed every moment of my wedding and I feel sure a big part of it is because someone else was there to deal with vendors, keep us on schedule, etc..

That said, if the part you disliked was speaking to guests, and you compulsively do just that, it may be more difficult.  During the cocktail hour we had some conversations with friends and family.. it was small talk I guess but I didn’t mind it too much.  Questions about out honeymoon, requests to see my ring, comments on the ceremony or my dress or my ring, congratulations.  Then after dinner we made the rounds and did it again.  Aside from that, we didn’t talk almost at all to our guests tbh.  It was just so whirlwind we were so busy doing this and then that together–cut the cake, make a speech, dance, etc.

Post # 3
Member
3848 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

View original reply
sunworshipbride :   Are you doing a first look?  In any case – throughout the day, take moments to step aside and take in the experience, just soak it in.  I did that and remember those moments vividly. 

We did a first look at our venue well before guests arrived, and we loved being there and roaming around, taking it all in without distractions.  

I know how you feel about the engagement party – mine washed over me too.  

Post # 4
Member
7991 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

keep conversations super short, especially if you don’t want to be in them.  excuse but i’m needed over there.

i spent most of my wedding on the dance floor and enjoyed my wedding very much.

Post # 5
Member
5166 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

So you hated your engagement party because you had to small talk and there were people you didn’t know there? What will make you enjoy your wedding – not having to speak to guests? If so why have a wedding?

Post # 6
Member
1593 posts
Bumble bee

 

View original reply
zzar45 :  Some people don’t like small talk or have social anxiety. That doesn’t mean they can’t have a wedding.

Post # 7
Member
796 posts
Busy bee

View original reply
sunworshipbride :  I really wanted to remember the day and not just have it be a blur. It’s hard. However, I took short snippets of videos throughout the day with my cell phone so that I could look back at them later. For example, I took a short one while we were eating breakfast (“it’s the wedding day, ahhh!”), one as we left the hair salon (“Here we are, just got our hair done, next up we’re meeting the makeup artist and then it’s off to the church”), a few of general conversation and whatnot as the bridesmaids hung out and got ready together… stuff like that. It wasn’t anything planned or coordinated–I just recorded video footage here and there. I like having it so I can relive parts of the day that ordinarily aren’t documented 🙂 Looking back at it, I wish I had taken a few more than I did, but I’m happy to have the ones that I do. 

 

One of these days, I’ll put it all together into one video mashup of the day/night and throw in some of the professional photos. 

Post # 8
Member
5166 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

View original reply
kristin36890 :  I don’t say she couldn’t have a wedding but why invite guests you don’t want to speak to? 

Post # 9
Member
1593 posts
Bumble bee

View original reply
zzar45 :  Probably because they are guests from the groom’s side….

Post # 10
Member
268 posts
Helper bee

I am not married. My sister, when she married, told herself during the vows: Focus, Remember This.

And she remembers that moment to this day, like 15 years later.

I also remember the day the Soviet Union fell, because my relative turned to me and said “you are watching history, rememember this” and so I stared closely at the screen and tell myself “Remember.”  I think I was 8 years old, it was Christmas season so much going on. But I remember that moment with the flag coming down and the feeling of it.

I think even just telling yourself to stop, and focus, and remember — helps your brain realize “this is information we must let seep in.” 

Post # 11
Member
3740 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

A lot of it was a blur to me. I was stressed and worried (a normal thing for me, but exaggerated with the wedding/upcoming honeymoon). I’m not sure how to not stress and enjoy the moment. I am very thankful for the photos because that way I’m able to remember the day. I do remember being amazed that DH and I were able to clean up so well, lol!! 

I was able to relax more once the wedding part was done. DH and I went out to dinner and came back to the room and relaxed in the hot tub. I remember it was a mess getting all the ridiculous bobby pins out of my hair, lol! 

I’d just go with the flow. If it ends up being a blur, that’s ok because you’ll have photos!! Even if you don’t enjoy all the festivities, at the end of it all you will be married. It’ll all be worth it when you two have some quiet time alone and the festivities are over. 

Post # 12
Member
220 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Our wedding started with a picking up the bride ceremony (it is an old mediterranean tradition) at 10am and ended around 5am. I pretty much remember everything. 

Don’t drink a lot.

Look at the people in the eye when you talk to them.

Be positive, be kind.

You will have to talk to people. They are your guests and they are there to share your happiness. Since you are having a bbq the day before your wedding you will have time to do your chatting that day. 

Remember those people are your family and friends. Do not break people’s heart.

If you ever feel overwhelmed you hug your husband. 

Post # 15
Member
1249 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center

View original reply
sunworshipbride :  Just had my engagement ceremony, it was nice, but exhuasting. A lot of new faces to meet. A lot of preparation, little sleep. Advice, get plenty of sleep! Don’t wear itchy or pasty makeup, or anything you don’t feel comfortable in. EATTTTTT. All of this will help you feel better so you can focus on more important things 🙂 Ignore all the people who always tell you to smile lol, cuz that can induce a headache.

The topic ‘tips and strategies to remain present and enjoy your wedding day’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors