(Closed) Tips for a woman with NO sex appeal?

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

lol I think I may be some stiff competition for worst stripper ever.  DH tells me i’m a comedy act and not sexy, well stop asking me to dance then!!!

Post # 5
1845 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Why don’t you take some pole dancing excercise classes? Or belly dancing?

Post # 6
8035 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@embarrassed99:  Oh geez, join the club. I have no rhythm. I am a horrible dancer and I feel so awkward trying to be sexy.

With that said, I am pretty sure we’re perfectly good at being accidentally sexy. You know, we’re just unaware that we’re actually goddesses πŸ˜‰

Post # 8
5279 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

You should take a sensual dance class/ chair dance class – I went to just one and learned some pretty cool moves. I am a good dancer but when my husband asks me to do something, I go blank – thats why these classes are cool because if you come up with a routine you will feel more comfortable. 

If you can’t go to a class, there are videos on youtube – you can look at the instructor who I took a class from (its actually a work out class called zensual dance) even though you are working out her videos are HOT! And you can learn some cool moves.

Post # 10
3170 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Hmm, I would feel super weird if my husband ever asked me to dance for him. Reminds me of the scene in True Lies where the wife has to dance all sexy and she has no idea what she’s doing.

My advice? Take some dancing lessons. Or turn on music. Make him get up and dance on him. I don’t know. I would be terrible.

Post # 11
503 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’ve long since accepted that I am only sexy when I don’t try… If I try, it usually turns into a joke very quickly.

Post # 12
763 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@embarrassed99:  Take a pole dancing class! or a hip hop or any kind of dance class. I know it might sound tacky, but it is really a fun class and not nasty or tacky at all. My Maid/Matron of Honor is taking us all to a pole dancing class for my bachorlette party. 

If you learn to dance in a room with alot of people (you have to remember that even though they are in the room with you they are not looking), you will become more confidant and feel sexy. 

Also when there is no music, stop what you are doing go grab the radio or ipod and start the music. It will help you stay confidant and not feel awkward. Listen to the music and loose yourself in it, instead of thinking oh I hope this looks right. 

The only reason he wants you to dance is to see your body, and see all of your curves and to admire it, so as long as you move slowly swaying from side to side, he is not going to notice your insecurity. πŸ™‚ I hope this helps! 

Post # 13
5949 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@embarrassed99:  Maybe dancing isn’t your sexy thing….maybe it’s something else.  Confidence is what makes a person sexy, you do what makes you feel like a powerful, beautiful, sexual being and tell your SO the next time he wants to see you dance that he’s going to have to pay you for it, cause that ain’t your job!

Post # 14
139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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@embarrassed99:  lol πŸ™‚ i would suggest yoga. it makes you limber, balanced and grounded. yoga will teach you to learn and love the way your body moves. you’ll gain lots of confidance and i think it might help you move better in front of your guy. πŸ™‚ if you can’t afford to go to a studio (even though its sooo worth the money) try http://www.yogaglo.com. it’s free your first month — after that its $15/month. try the vinyasa style classes (they are more flowy/dance like). good luck! 




Post # 15
139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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@Nona99:  great point

Post # 16
244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

posting to follow up on this, I have the same problem! I’d like to read the responses. it’s always a big joke to DH lol

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