(Closed) Tips for being a Zen Bride…?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
5660 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

You need:

A good friend (or a professional) that knows your vision and is going to execute it for you on the day of (a DOC)

Your decor etc labeled in boxes that are pre packed and a key to tell whoever is setting up what they can find in which box

The Packet – which I stole from a blogger bee, and many have used it. You can find the packet here: 


Email the packet to all involved so that they know where to be and when

Pack two bags if you are going out of town. One for day of items, one for the rest of your clothes/outfits for events.

You need another good friend who will be with you on the day of to answer your phone and any texts. You will be FAR FAR less stressed the day of if you have NO idea what people are texting or calling about. My Maid/Matron of Honor handled everything for me and I just sat around sipping mims.

To remind yourself that it’s just one day and whatever happens will happen, and the most important thing is having fun and marrying the person you are going to spend your life with!


Post # 4
8446 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@36goldfish:  Let go of expectations. 

Post # 5
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I am beginning to feel the stress creep in as well! I’ve made a very specific timeline for myself (different that the ones you find in magazines & such). My timeline has us totally finished with wedding decisions, crafts, purchases, etc. 6 weeks before the wedding. That gives me at least a month to relax AND take care of last minute things that pop up. So far, keeping to my list and staying on top of things has helped tremendously in keeping me calm.

Sounds like you are doing a great job checking things off your list! Just keep moving and it’ll help you focus on productive decisions and not stress.

Post # 7
700 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Something will go wrong. Something will not go according to plan. You have to admit that now. That’s something they tell musicians to let go of for concerts (particularly classical musicians who are expected to give a flawless performance), and something you have to admit for your wedding day. Once you accept that, and something doesn’t go according to plan (like my florist putting the $100 worth of extra rose petals on the wrong aisle in the park), you’ll feel much more relaxed, and you won’t freak out when something doesn’t go right (as long as you believe it). That helped me get through the day. And, joking with my brother.

Post # 8
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

@36goldfish:  My tip – plan plan plan ahead of time. Make a clear schedule for everyone. Get all your expectations in writing with your vendors. Then the night before you must let go and accept everything as it comes. 

A lot of things went wrong on my wedding day but what could I do? I tried to just smile and roll with the punches. This was my wedding motto – 

 One Love, One Day: A Wedding is not a Performance...

Of course some things did bother me but for the most part I put them out of my mind until the next day. Then Darling Husband and I just laughed about it all Laughing

Post # 9
158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@36goldfish:  I am that bride… I think. My wedding is in 44 days away and I am totally cool! I know that I have planned a good wedding and evrything will be perfect… you know why? Cause at the end of the day I am marrying the love of my life 🙂 

I took all the stress out by communicating with people. So what if I am annoying? I need to know exactly what the vendors thoughts are and if they match mine. 


Ask lots of questions, write down questions on a piece of paper or e small note book whenever they pop up. 


I also made a wedding binder too where I am keeping track of everything. 

Post # 11
818 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MsJ2theZ:  The Packet is such a good idea! GENIOUS really. My wedding is tiny but 99.9% are out of town and I want them to have info at their disposal. This would be even more helpful for other ladies I’m sure, thank you! :]

Post # 12
1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I have started getting monthly massages and just bought a Living Social deal for yoga. I think those combined with help keep me on this side of the bridezilla line.

Post # 13
3092 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Tagging for later 🙂

Post # 14
2095 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013


Your wedding day will be what it is and any expectations you put on yourself are not beneficial. You are on a great track and it will be great!

You could also start saying to yourself, “I can’t wait until I’m a zen bride”. You will me amazed when you realize you ARE her.

Post # 15
5660 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@sapphire–stars:  I edited it to my liking of course as I’m sure many bees have but it was really helpful because people weren’t calling me constantly asking where to be and when!

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