(Closed) Tips for BF asking father’s blessing?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

Honesty, confidence, manners. Asking the parents is a very traditional move and requires more of a traditional approach – even if your parents don’t believe it’s necessary. It will only make it all the more impressive. My guy has no plans to do this just yet, or maybe ever…I’ve never asked. 🙂 But I’m sure your SO will do fine. I’ve often found the thought of something is usually worse than the actual event. Good luck to the both of you!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think this really depends on your dad.  Is he a very formal guy, or would being approached in that way make him nervous?  Is he a straight to the point guy, or would he appreciate some small talk?

Post # 5
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Newbee

That’s great that he asked you since you know your Dad best. My bf was very nervous about asking. I’m not sure exactly how he asked, but I know he took my dad to lunch. My dad won’t give me details and my bf doesn’t know that I know. If your dad is not in town, I would suggest he call him after dinner. I know my dad is always happier after he eats. Best of luck to your SO!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@SnowflakeDS: I’d suggest telling your SO to find something that your father enjoys doing (i.e., going to a baseball game, etc), and take him to one.

J wants to ask my dad to go golfing (my dad loves golf). I dunno… Find something that they both have in common, even if it’s just a game of pool and a couple of beers!

Gwen

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@GwenvonD: I think these are great suggestions for the OP!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

@GwenvonD: Excellent advice!

That’s what Darling Husband did.  My dad loves going out to breakfast, so he asked him to go out with him.  Darling Husband brought the ring and told him why he wanted to marry me, why he thought he would be a good husband, what his general plans were for a timeline/job (cause he was still in school), and that he wanted to take care of me… etc.  All the stuff dads want to know. 🙂

An activity would give them something to do while talking… Darling Husband was pretty nervous just sitting there with my dad!

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