Post # 16
We have two children and a two bedroom home as well. Our youngest slept in her pack-n-play in our room until she was about a year old, then we moved her to the crib in the kids’ room. Our son had a twin bed at the time. Once our youngest outgrew the crib we got a bunk bed. They are 6.5 years and 4 years old now. Our house doesn’t have a master with an en suite but they share the smaller room nonetheless. Eventually we’ll put a bathroom in our finished basement and move our room down there. We don’t have issues with them sharing even though they are boy/girl but sometimes they fight over toys.
Post # 17
NFLwidow: Sorry, just agreeing with others that this is a really bad idea. None of the reasons you gave make up for the horrible lesson it teaches kids. Don’t want to be snarky or make you feel attacked, but this kind of thinking really is why so many kids are growing up feeling like the world owes them.
Post # 18
My only advice is bunk beds! I shared a room with my brother until I was 12 ish. The bunk beds were awesome.
I don’t think I can even remember being woken by him in the night? I think he slept with my parents in a bassinet by the bed until he was probably about 6 months old though.
Also LOLing at the idea of the kids having their own bathroom. Ha! They should be so lucky! Come and live near me… you get one bathroom per house unless your home is freaking HUGE.
Post # 19
It’s a suggestion. That’s all. If it won’t work for your family, no need to apologize to me. How it teaches kids a bad Iesson is beyond me, however.
Post # 20
Thanks again all. I’m glad to see I’m not the only one who has had to give this some thought. Its super interesting reading others experiences and I will check the thread for those who said they plan to post in the future.
To clarify (again for some), I’m not the least bit concerned about space or the use of a bathroom. Its purely about the sleep disruption in the middle of the night.
Post # 21
NFLwidow: It really isn’t an odd suggestion either, as many people do it when they have more than one or three in one room. We had the largest bedroom for the 3 girls and had a single twin and a set of bunkbeds, so it only made sense. Throw in a couple of dressers and it was the only room that could possibly fit all of us. In a 3 bedroom house, you do what you have to do. My parents didn’t get into the bigger BR until 2 of us were moved out.
Post # 22
Vsmart: I shared a room with my sister from when she was born until I was 15 years old. I don’t remember too much from when she was a baby, but she was a much better sleeper than I am in general, so I think it was smooth sailing once she was sleeping into the night. I don’t think its as disruptive as you may think. Growing up, there were times when I wanted my own room, especialy as I got into my teenage years. But I have to say, sharing a room really helped us bond and forced us to get along most of the time. It was a small room, so we had two twin beds on each side and a dresser in the middle. We used to bounce from bed to bed and have so much fun.
I remember my first night alone in my room when I was 15, I missed her. I didn’t think I would, but I felt lonely for a little while. I had waited so long to finally get my own room and my own space, and suddenly I felt alone.
Post # 23
Darling Husband and I were talking about this the other day. We have a three-bedroom house, but one of the bedrooms is really tiny – it’s currently my office/guestroom. It would work for a kid’s room, but it would be tight. We figure if our second is the same sex as our first, we will bunkbed them up and hopefully they will enjoy that. If they are opposite sex, they can roomshare for a while, but eventually it probably won’t be an appropriate solution. At that point, we may build a bedroom downstairs – maybe for us – and let the kids have the upstairs. Our house isn’t huge, so it’s not like we wouldn’t hear the moment one of them got out of bed or something.
Post # 24
I was the only girl until I was almost 9, then the babies kept waking me up. Thankfully, that was over summer, so it could have been worse. By 5-6 months, I never woke up from them. At 14, I got a basement bedroom, so yay. But more because the shared room was small and fitting three beds, even with a bunkbed was not working, after my sisters outgrew toddler beds. So I moved and they shared a full sized mattress since they kept getting in the same bed. Mostly well behaved teenager earned being farther away from parents than toddlers, the only reason I got the bigger room.
Post # 25
Would a white noise machine help keep them from waking each other up?