Tips for dealing with a shitty shitty job

posted 1 week ago in Career
Post # 17
6599 posts
Bee Keeper

It’s good that SOMEONE there has your back! 

Post # 18
1104 posts
Bumble bee

ritzybee :  is your boss’s name Michael Scott? 

Seriously though I cannot believe your boss actually suggested you MOVE to be closer to work so you can bend over backwards for no reason. What a moron!

If you can afford it- stop all overtime. Let your supervisor be exposed for the worthless waste of space he is- he’s clearly dumb enough that if you give him enough rope to hang himself, he will.

Do not give your company the impression that you are willing to bend over backwards to keep them afloat. Let that ship sink and jump off before you go down with it- use your extra time from skipping OT for applying for jobs and interviewing. And if it’s just that bad that your sanity is at stake- then just quit and find a part time job or whatever you can get in the mean time. 

Seriously stop with the OT though…Ive noticed that the less time I spent at a job I hated, the happier I was. Go figure 🤷🏻‍♀️

Post # 19
105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 1995

Now is the time to network like crazy.  I would contact the former coworkers who quit, and find out where they are working now–find out if there are more openings at these new companies.  They can help you get your foot in the door, an interview, or introduce you to the hiring manager, give you advice regarding interviews, etc.  

Post # 20
2128 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I’ve had some really shitty jobs over the years!! I actually just left a job. It wasn’t the worst ever, but I was not happy there. We also had a whole lot of other people quit. (So much so that my interviewers were asking me what in the world was going on at my employer because they were getting so many applicants from there!) 

I would not work more hours than you can. Come up with what is tolerable for you—set that as your boundary, and don’t go beyond. If you think like a shortimer it may make some things easier. Just remember that it’s not forever—you will find something better. I gave my employer a whole month’s notice, and believe me it has been a long month. I would say that it took me a good 3 months to find my new job. Just keep on working on it and you’ll see the light at the end of the tunnel soon. 

Post # 21
1988 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

ritzybee :  So first of all, I’d stop working weekends and evenings. You will burn yourself out and have no energy to look for jobs, which is why you vegged on your sofa on your personal day. Take care of you, make you the priority. If that means stuff doesn’t get done, then stuff doesn’t get done. When that happens, higher ups will start paying attention to the problem and you’ll possibly be able to get some temps or the supervisor will be reprimanded.

Your supervisor should be working these boys out with you. It’s not that he’s allowed everyone to be to autonomous, it’s that he’s a lazy shit.

I have similar issues with my job. Our head of department literally knows nothing about what we do. He’s paid probably double what I am and I’m having to explain the basic functions of my job. I’ve also been looking for a while without luck, so I know from experience that you want to put your all in but you need to stop, make you and finding a new job a priority.

Post # 22
331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

Immediately stop working nights and weekends!  
Explain to your prat of a supervisor that you will do your best in the working day but that you have other commitments outside of work. 
No wonder you can’t find another job – you have no time to look! You have to put an end to this or you will be stuck in a vicious circle forever…. 

good luck! 

Post # 23
504 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Sunshine024 :  All of this. All of it. 

Sounds like we all three had the same jobs, and while it isn’t the most mature advice out there, I echo what Sunshine said. 

I could tell my manager and a co-worker were trying to push me out because they didn’t personally like me. So, I quit going above and beyond for stuff and making an effort to participate in bigger meetings, sometimes any discussions at all because I knew my ideas/suggestions weren’t going to be up to par. I came into work, did my work, left work. I even had a co-worker stop by my office and was like “Hey, just checking on you, you seem to stay holed up in your office these days” 

Updated your resume, put it on LinkedIn, job search in your downtime (lol, if you have any), talk to friends if they can help you out, all of those things, but try not to quit. I could not quit either because I couldn’t afford to be out of a job… I wanted to quit SO BAD but guess what?

I ended up getting fired about a month after I got wrote up and it was the best thing that happened to me professionally I think. Darling Husband and I got by, I took like 2 weeks to take a breather and job searched and found my next job within the next 2 weeks and I’ve almost been here a year! 

Like I said, as immature as it may sound, I had the “I’ll be dammed if you think you can get me to quit” attitude and just waited for them to fire me because I knew I did nothing wrong. In my situation, perks of toughing it out – I got severence pay, all my PTO paid (like 3 weeks) and I did collect like 2 unemployment checks. I wouldn’t have gotten that nice of a cushion if I had quit on my own. 

Post # 24
422 posts
Helper bee

You have to start looking out for yourself, because other people aren’t going to look out for you. You could easily end up in a similar situation at your next job if you don’t set boundaries. Most people are busy with their own work and can’t see beyond themselves, and if you’re willing to work 24/7 for them, they’ll be happy to accept that if you’re not standing up for yourself.

Post # 25
950 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

What everyone else said. Stop working nights and weekends. They need you way more than you need them so stop bending over backwards to keep everything afloat.  

Post # 26
94 posts
Worker bee

All of my jobs prior to the one I have now were painful, torturous crap. I hung in there and did not leave until I had another one lined up. Reason being, I know what I hard time I had just getting a job when I had none during the recession. People ignore you and throw your resume out when you don’t have a current job. Don’t leave until you have another job in place.

Post # 27
25 posts
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Tacoma, WA

Oh Bee, I feel your pain. I, too, was frustrated by my job to the point that it was affecting my mental health on a daily basis -but I have a family and couldn’t just quit and hope I found something new before we were all homeless. And job hunting is just so brutal. There were many days I would just lay in bed and wonder where I went wrong. Why I wasn’t getting any call backs on all those applications I was sending out, and I just felt like I wasn’t good enough for my job, and also not good enough to find a new one. I was seriously depressed. It sucks, I know.

Here’s what I did to deal with it until I DID finally land a new job (my official last day at my current job is TOMORROW!). Maybe some of this will be helpful to you right now:

I had to stop letting my entire life revolve around my job. I KNOW this is easier said than done, but I seriously had to force myself to put my job out of my mind and enjoy other parts of my life fully from time to time, be it a night out with friends or a cozy night watching Netflix with my wife.

I focused a LOT of my energy on job searching, and that meant revising my resume multiple times, joining multiple job boards, reaching out to recruiters and hiring managers on LinkedIn after applying for the jobs they posted, etc. I would often spend my entire lunch breaks and my weekends doing this every single day.

I put some serious boundaries in place at work. This was scary, but it was necessary. My boss constantly told me if I wanted to succeed in this role, I’d have to work around the clock, and would chastise me if I didn’t. I finally had to put my foot down and tell him NO. I need work/life balance. Period.

From what you’ve said, they can’t really afford to fire you, Bee. You’re literally the only one doing the work or who even knows how. Tell your boss he either gets you the support you need, or things are simply not going to get done. Period. And demand a raise while you’re at it. Believe it or not, YOU are in the power position here.

Also, speak up next time he shoots down your ideas or takes credit. Call him out on his bullshit. This is so typical in the corporate world, where women are shot down or don’t get to take credit for their own ideas, and women tend to smile politely and let it happen, then secretly fume about it later.

Next time, say something like “Well, Kyle, I appreciate that you liked my idea, but I would also appreciate it if you gave me proper credit for my contributions. I feel I deserve recognition for my efforts, as anyone would.” or “Can you break down for me why exactly you feel this idea won’t work? Perhaps you have a better idea to offer instead?”

Good luck, Bee. I know it’s really rough right now, and I’m hoping you land something amazing soon. In the meantime, though, ASSERT yourself more!

Post # 28
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

ritzybee :  I’m sorry to hear this and I’ve been there. Do you mind me asking what field you’re in? It sounds like you’re working long hours, but if possible I’d pick up something flexible like WaitR or Lyft and maybe do that only until you find something else. No job, person, place or situation is ever worth your happiness.

Post # 29
1505 posts
Bumble bee

Find a new job.

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