Post # 1
I am getting married on September 11, so we’re quickly approaching the 6 month mark. We got engaged in December but I keep falling further and further behind in the planning.
– I work a full time job. Often 60+ hours a week.
– I’m a burlesque dancer (my used to be fun hobby) and have 3 shows coming up in the first two weeks of march.
– I am attempting to lose 20-40 pounds before the wedding (So I spend an hour to an hour and a half in the gym 5 times a week)
– I’m basically doing most of the work solo on a VERY tight budget, so I need to do as much as possible myself.
I have a place, a date, my dress, and a photographer. That’s about it! I’m kind of freaking out here.
Does anyone have any tips on how to manage every thing? Has anyone else pulled off wedding planning on a short time frame with a schedule that was over flowing?? i just need some ideas on how to get this under control. At this point, I’ve been using all my breaks and lunches at work to plan and I’m not sleeping very much, but I know that I can’t maintain that for the next six months.
Any help would be greatly appreciated!
Post # 3
Oooh! Well, narrow it down to just what you want. I make checklists, week by week, of what I want to do this week. (I’m planning, going to school and working at the same time! It is indeed CRAZY!)
For example, the checklist for this week is: send out the save the dates and work on the wedding website. Checklist for next week: Take the online test for premarital counseling.
I do reccomend you do most of your stuff online. For example, do you have shoes yet? If not, just order from zappos and keep returning them until you find the ones. Free shipping both ways, so you’re only paying the cost of the shoes. And start your registry online! And find a timeline online and think about the different elements of the day. Do you need music? Start finding a DJ or consider an ipod reception, and rent the equipment if you’re doing it that way. Cake? Set up an appointment on your lunch hour and nosh on a ton of cake (see, two birds, one stone there, hehe).
Good luck! I’m sure you’ll find a good rhythm once you get everything settled down. Pick major elements first and then work on decor and stuff.
Post # 4
I agree with Laboroflove.. checklist are the stressed brides best friends. Sounds like youre pretty on track with what you have.. and seems like maybe just the little things are left to do?!
try and see if friends or fam can help you as well, as far as keeping you on track!
Post # 5
I’m with LaborOfLove – do as much as possible online. I looked for everything online before I even walked into a store. We started our registries online too which made it a LOT easier. I dunno if I could do the Zappos thing though. I’d prob just walk into a Dept. store and try on as much as possible while you’re there.
See if you can find a vendor that offers multiple services. We found a photographer that we loved & turns out they work with a company that does DJ, and video services too. 3 birds, 1 stone kinda thing. Some catering services can do favors like candy, or other food items. Our florist is also getting all our candles, etc…
Once you find a vendor you like, ask them for references for other people they’ve worked with. We used a couple vendors at the suggestion of the contact at our venue – they’ve worked together before, so I’m going to leave it to the coordinator at the venue take care of the details. A lot of times you can get a discount through a referral.
Most of all – I know it might not be WB friendly, or $$ saving, but DIY as little as possible. I’m not great at it myself so I knew early on it’d be a waste of time & money plus a lot of frustration. I’d rather have a very plain STD ordered from Vistaprint than an elaborate one that I DIY’d. Much less hassle.
Good luck!! And when in doubt — there’s always the ladies on here. Seriously — they know EVERYTHING!
Edit: One more thing – Excel documents are a lifesaver! Everything I have is in an excel doc.
Post # 6
Thank you so much for the advice. I’m having one of those seriously overwhelmed moments that makes me want to say “Screw the whole thing, let’s go to Vegas!”