(Closed) Tips for getting him to propose faster

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Be honest with him  about your feelings and then just let him take his time. That’s it. Nobody likes games. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

If you have to MAKE a man propose, it’s not time. He’ll propose when he’s ready and if he’s not ready when you’re ready, then you leave.

 

I’m personally one that believes in not giving a man the benefits of having a wife until he’s made you a wife, so I can’t advise you about doing things around the house and such. I remember my dad telling me that when a man is ready to upgrade you, he’ll do it and you don’t have to do anything to make that happen

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

@pictureaccount:  Before I say something that upsets you, I’ll just say…. good luck. Hope you get what you want. I’ve given you the advice I have

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

My advice: Be yourself and he will propose when he’s ready.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@pictureaccount:  You can’t make someone do something they aren’t ready for.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@DJones69: I remember my dad telling me that when a man is ready to upgrade you, he’ll do it and you don’t have to do anything to make that happen

I could not agree more with this! You shouldnt have to do anything to make him propose. It has to come from him. My Fiance basically laid it out to me and said, “I want you to be my wife….forever. It’s just as simple as that.”

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Please, tell him what you just told us in this thread. If you’re not comfortable being as open and vulnerable with him as with complete strangers, you’re not ready for a satisfying marriage. Openness and communication are of top importance in a marriage. Show him this thread. What’s the worse that can happen if you do? That way you won’t have to twist your mind into a Pretzel trying to figure out a way to make him do something. He’ll tell you what would get him to propose sooner, if anything. A good marriage advice is: don’t try to read the other person’s mind, just ask them what they think. I hope this help. I wish you the best!

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@pictureaccount:  All of that sounds incredibly immature. Don’t play games with someone you intend to marry. Just live your lives together, tell him that you are ready and willing whenever he is, and wait. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

#1 – if money is an issue then you need to downgrade your price of stone.  Want a diamond?  Tell him you want a white sapphire or moissanite.  Now he doesn’t have to spend thousands of dollars.

#2 – stop talking about it.  If he brings up the subject of marriage just discuss it with him kindly and casually and then change the subject.

 

I thought a proposal was REALLY far away due to money and his semi-resistance when I was pressuring him.  I decided I liked either moissy or peach sapphire (I genuinely did…never wanted a diamond) and then I shut up about it.  2 months later…ring on finger ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’m in the “If you have to make someone propose, you’re not in it for the right reason” camp.

 

He’ll propose when he’s ready. If he’s not ready and you are, instead of trying to manipulate him into something, either be honest with him, or leave. It’s honestly as simple as that.

ETA: Do things because you want to do them because you love your SO. Do not do things to encourage him to propose. Stopping these things because he hasn’t proposed fast enough is very ungrateful, childish and cruel to me, but that’s just how I see it.

 

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