(Closed) Tips for getting him to propose faster

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
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1455 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

You don’t want a pity proposal or a forced one. That’ll get ya nowhere.

Wait it out. Good things come to those who wait 🙂

Post # 18
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1263 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I don’t think you can actually make someone want to propose. The best idea is to let him know your timeline (why is that always seen as an ultimatum??) – it doesn’t have to be “Propose by X date or I’m outta here,” it can just be “I want to spend the rest of my life with you, I need to know if you feel the same way. If yes, then let’s do a wedding (if that’s what we want), if no, then let me know so I can move on as easily as possible.”

Post # 20
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1626 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

You may not want to rush him. My Fiance knew I was getting impatient and instead of taking the time to get the ring sized to me and plan a nice proposal, he just handed it over in a plastic ziploc jewelry bag. He wanted to do something better, but he didn’t want me to wait any longer.

Post # 22
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717 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

@pictureaccount:  No, that wasn’t what I was going to say at all.

Post # 23
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69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - Italy

Patience! I swear!

I got so impatient that I proposed myself and he did say yes and we are engaged but he was disappointed he didn’t get the opportunity to get down on one knee.

But I think he may have recently purchased a ring (we didn’t have one because I proposed and it was unplanned, I said I wasn’t fussed and we would get one when we could)…and I think he might just be planning to propose on my birthday!

But that’s my GREATEST advice! Shut up about it and let him do it. Talking too much and adding too much pressure ruins it for you and for him and soon he’ll start thinking the proposal is all you want, and not him x

Post # 25
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - Italy

@DJones69:  “I’m personally one that believes in not giving a man the benefits of having a wife until he’s made you a wife, so I can’t advise you about doing things around the house and such.”

That sounds kind of medieval to me. It’s 2013. I don’t need a ring on my finger to help my partner with what needs to be done around the house. We’re a team, we take an equal share in everything whether a certificate says we are married or not.

Post # 26
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717 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

@EmilyBelle:  What works for you, doesn’t work for me. You say tomato I say tomahto.

 

I do need a ring for me to act like I’m some man’s wife. That stops me from having to post on a wedding forum about how I’m still waiting on a man to propose to me. I’m probably guessing my husband and I are much older than the most of you guys. Someone made mention of being 19. My son is almost 19.

Post # 28
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Be honest. Tell him you’re ready and ask him if he is. After I had this conversation with my now fiance, I as a joke added a 50,000 dollar diamond ring in his amazon account. The next day he went to go buy a pair of headphones and checked out without realizing the ring was in there. Amazon called him promptly and told him he had insufficiant funds. Glad he was amused, I didnt mean for it to go that far! A few months later he really popped the question.

 

Be honest.

 

Post # 29
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69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - Italy

@DJones69: You must have a really heartwarming, fulfilling and happy marriage. Congratulations. 

Post # 30
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171 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Asia:  Very Well said

Post # 31
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@DJones69:  She was not saying her SO is 19, she was just saying that her SO says he wants to wait until he’s financially stable and she was using a “broke 19 year old” as an example. 

 

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