Post # 1
I wouldn’t say that I’m the most nervous bride, if I compare myself to those who break out in hives just thinking about it. But I certainly am not comfortable with all eyes on me. I’m pretty sure I will need to focus on something. If I were to start looking at people in their faces I might smile like an ebarrassed idiot or it may strike major fear in me. I’ve read to focus on the groom. I’d rather focus on an inanimate object in case he looks stressed too! any experience or advice?
Post # 3
I am not married yet but I would suggest focusing on the groom. If you are getting married in a church focus on the altar, or the podium at the front. If you are getting married outside, focus on a tree or something. Indoors, focus on the decorations at the end of the aisle 🙂
Post # 4
I’m not married yet but this is what I’m doing:
-rehearse it in your house when you are alone, to your processional music, weeks before the wedding to get used to hearing it so you don’t burst out in tears the second the music comes on.
-try not to look at anyone, if you do and they are crying it’s going to make you want to cry too. Look forward and up. (I’m going to try and focus on the flowers on the ceremony table.)
-breathe and say in your head “I’m ok, I’m ok, I’m ok” over and over and over again until you get up there.
Post # 5
Absolutely I would recommend focusing on an inanimate object. I had to do this when I walked and it worked out GREAT. I would shoot my husband smiles and eye contact, but I had to re-group by focusing on the cross behind him or I would have gone to pieces with all the emotion. Focusing on something neutral kept me sane!
Post # 6
So different people have different opinions on this, but the 2 glasses of champagne I had (over a time period of about 3 hours before the wedding) totally got me down that aisle. I walked by myself which I was a little nervous about, but when the time came I was totally fine.
Also I found myself checking out the decor a lot. I hadn’t had much time to see what the florist had put together, so I was excited to see it all. I think that distracted me too. Best of luck to you!
Post # 7
Also, I agree with the bee above who said try not to look at anyone, especially if they are crying! I was lucky that my dad’s pretty stoic and not a cry-er, so he kept me from being a mess, but my mom was LOUDLY boo-hooing in the first pew and I had to absolutely NOT look at her or I would have been a mess. If you have to look at someone, find your funnest friend in the crowd and give them a huge smile.
Post # 8
I was really nervous too! To be completely honest, as soon as I got to the end of that aisle, my eyes were locked on my husband, and I didn’t even notice anything else. As soon as our eyes locked, all of my anxiety was gone.
Post # 9
I haven’t given this advice in a while, but I swear it worked for me on my wedding day: have a banana before the ceremony. Bananas serve as a great beta blocker, something in them are supposed to keep you calm (I’m a pianist and have done a lot of performing and this is what we do).
Post # 10
have a couple drinks first…. if you drink….. i think that calmed me. I had 2 glasses of champagne and a shot. haha. I was not nervous during my walk at all… and i actually don’t even remember what i was looking at but the walk seemed to go by really fast.
Post # 11
@Leemarie: I know exactly how you feel. I was so nervous about walking down the aisle to the point of almost crying when I got out the car straight before walking down!
It was actually fine in the end! It helped that I had my mum and dad both walk me down so I had one eithor side of me. I got married in a Cathedrel which has quite a large aisle so beforehand I decided not to look at any guests, just at Darling Husband.
And honestly the moment I saw him standing there grinning, all nerves left me and I just felt so so happy.
I think if you concentrate on your hubby to be and also remember that everyone there wishes you well, they are not strangers they are famiily and friends who love you very very much hopefully that will help 🙂
Post # 12
This is a great question.Glad you asked it!