Post # 1
Those who had 60 guests or less after a short engagement.. What are your tips to not get sucked into the wedding industry complex? That is my biggest concern.. that it would just end up the same amount of stress/planning as a larger wedding! So eloping can seem appealing.
Do you have any regrets with keeping guest list tight? Were all of your closest friends & family able to make it?
Post # 2
jonasbutterfly : Short engagement. Wedding guest list was 30 people (even though we have HUGE families on both sides). And I ended up having a small, intimate garden wedding. No regrets – If I had to do it all over again, I wouldn’t change a thing. It was so beautiful, peaceful, romantic, and stress free.
ETA: Here was the recap I did, just so you can see that small weddings can be equally beautiful to big weddings – https://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/were-finally-married-10-19-17/
Post # 3
We did an immediate family only wedding and decided to use the budget for our dream wedding rings and honeymoon. We also moved out of state right after our wedding. We are an older couple though.
Post # 4
So I had an intimate wedding aka a planned elopement. Only my mom, grandpa, stepdaughter and SIL attended. My tips are set a budget and know what is or isn’t important to you. I wanted to be given away by my grandpa and we both wanted my stepdaughter there so a couple only elopement was out the question for us but may fit you better. I also still did the dress (although under $300), flower girl (6 year old stepdaughter), silk bouquet and rings. If you know a great photographer friend and know someone who can officiate then you can go somewhere beautiful but local like a garden, mountain hike, lake or beach side this will keep cost down to basically nothing. Another option is looking into elopement companies, many offer very affordable packages. We went with a couple who offers elopments in Orlando and paid $300 for a ceremony in their lakeside garden with over 60 pictures included. We are VERY happy with our decision and adore our memories and pictures form that day. We are quiet and private people as well as frugal so it just fit our style much more that a traditional wedding.
Post # 5
Biggest tip on avoiding the stress of the wedding industry craze is to keep things simple, omit the things you don’t care too much about and don’t worry about trying to impress anyone. Want a traditional church wedding but have a small budget? Do a simple cake and punch reception or a backyard BBQ! Don’t care for a fancy wedding cake? Make your own one tier cake and buy a topper and flowers to go over it! Is the wedding dress not a big deal to you? Buy a prom or bridesmaid dress in ivory or explore online options like Eric wedding dresses to keep the dress under $300! Those that love you want to celebrate your day and eat after you don’t have to have the perfect reception set up keep it simple and keep it stress free.
Post # 6
I’m going to say this in the kindest way I possibly can, I really don’t want to offend you or be mean.
Based on your post history as I’ve been following it over the last little bit seeing it on the boards, you’re really all over the place. Is everything okay? It may be a better idea to have a bit of a break from the boards. You’ve posted about waiting, being unhappy waiting, him needing more time, a break up, then getting married after a break up and if people got back together, elopements, elopements in Costa Rica and now small weddings.
Is everything okay with you guys as a couple, and do you perhaps need sounding boards about cementing your relationship before you go to far down the wedding rabbit hole? I don’t know if you’re using this to cope while he figures things out and you’re broken up, or if you’ve gotten back together. But your post history has me concerned that you need more emotional support in your relationship and for you as part of your relationship.
Post # 7
I agree with danigirl. Does this mean he has moved back in and actually proposed?
You have been asking basically the exact same question you posted here at least a dozen times about eloping or small wedding or planning with short notice.
1. You may need to get more specific because people have answered you all the other dozen times (some I think you have deleted). So what information is it you are seeking that was missing from all the other threads? Or do you not actually go back and read the answers and just post the same question over?
2. Instead of worrying about eloping with short notice, worry about your relationship. You have been putting the cart before the horse for months and months now only to finally reveal a couple weeks ago that not only are not engaged, your boyfriend wanted a break. You are focusing on the wrong things. Now, if in the two weeks since you posted that he somehow did a 180 and proposed, then congratulations. It is somewhat surprising you wouldn’t have posted that. Otherwise this just seems like some sort of unhealthy escapism because you are in denial or are hoping it is like Field of Dreams and if you build it he will come and it has to be fast so he doesn’t get a chance to get cold feet again.