Post # 1
I LOVE my Maid/Matron of Honor with all my heart and want nothing more than to see her happy. With that being said, I am having a really hard time dealing with her boyfriend. I feel like I can’t say anything because he’s SUPER nice and treats her so well. He’s just REALLY annoying. We spent the weekend with him this weekend and I had to take a long bike ride on Sunday just for a break. And then proceeded to clean all the rooms in the house in order to avoid drinking coffee with him. I am trying so hard to be nice and supportive, but it makes it very challenging to hang out with him.
Does anyone have any tips on how to deal with this situation? I have a feeling that i might have to hang out with him for the rest of my life and I just dont know that I can do it….
Post # 3
@NVACat: What does he do that is annoying?
If he is sweet and loving to your friend then you should try to figure out how to be around him.
Could his annoying-ness come from being nervous around new people? Or wanting to impress those who are super close to his gf?
Post # 4
@KatNYC2011: I really think he is just trying to impress us. But in fact its making us crazy! He is very much a know it all and even tried to argue about things that we know a lot about (like the human body with me… an anatomy teacher). Its SOOOO frustrating!
Or like this weekend when we are out drinking beer and he pretty much had to one-up every beer selection I made. I know a LOT about beer so it was fairly frustrating to be put in that situation
Post # 5
@NVACat: If he’s a “know-it-all” or a “one-upper” there’s not much you can do.
I’d stop arguing with him. With the beer thing, I’d say something like “Oh, interesting” or “oh that’s great” and then leave it at that.
For the know-it-all part I’d just not argue with him. Just ignore it and move on. If he’s giving someone bad advice, maybe take that person aside later and let them know how/why it’s wrong.
Hopefully he’ll calm down a bit once he gets more comfortable.
Post # 6
If someone serially one-ups me, I call them out on it. “Okay, stop correcting me and trying to one-up me, I can pick my own beer!” Keep the conversation flowing so it doesn’t turn into a Thing, but repeat as necessary. “Okay, I teach anatomy, stop one-upping me.”
Post # 7
Uggghhhh one-uppers. My ex roomie dated the worst of all time. After 3 weeks I finally just said “Ok I’m pretty sure I signed up for a night out and not a debate club, but thanks.” That seemed to shut him up. Sometimes you just have to be the one that says it.
He might not even realize he’s doing it!
Post # 8
Oh dear I’ve known a couple of people like this. One guy who actually screamed in my face that I was a liar and then called his mother to tell me I was a liar….about which make of car my father drove, as according to him it didn’t exist lololol.
And then another who actually dropped out of school aged 14 who would try to constantly insist he was more intelligent than me just because he tended to watch documentaries on tv whereas I preferred to wind down (after a long day of studying might I add) with less brain stimulating tv. He once got so wound up and full of himself that he started yelling that he would prove me wrong about how the law works because he would go and “sit the exam like Leonardo Di Caprio did in Catch me If You Can cos it’s based on a true story you know” and meant it. I didn’t know whether to laugh or hit my head off the wall.
The best thing to do in this situation is to laugh in all honesty. Perhaps even make a little joke or sarcastic comment if it makes you feel better like “thanks, I definitely needed educating in anatomy seeing how I teach it”.
Post # 9
Thanks for all the suggestions! I’m seriously trying to think positive thoughts about him 🙂
One thing that helps is definitely having an awesome fiance who not only listens to me vent but is always there to remind me to breathe 🙂