Post # 1
I recently had to scale back at work due to restructuring and now having a difficult time finding a new job. I realised today that I’ve been becoming very frumpy in my appearance because of wanting to save money (ie not getting my hair or nails done and not buying new clothes) amd dressing for comfort like 100% of the time. I think I was (am?) also in a bit of a “depressive funk” (not clinically depressed but struggling) with this drastic change and all the uncertainty. Initially I assumed I would easily find another job but it’s been much harder than I expected. All of a sudden I just don’t feel like myself – I used to feel powerful and strong, now I feel scared and dependent on my husband. I believe I’ll find something in due course, but does anyone have some advice or tips/tricks to care for my appearance but that won’t break the bank? I just want to feel pretty and confident again!
Post # 2
anonee008 : Look at what you have in your closet, and go to Pinterest for ideas on how to put outfits together in ways you wouldn’t have thought of otherwise. I wear scrubs now, but my last job was for a big player in the jewelry industry, so I had to put extra effort into my appearance. I am one of those people who wears jeans, a tank top, and Rainbows on the weekends—I’m not fancy by any means! I used Pinterest to keep my look updated using pieces I already owned. You can search for “black pants outfit” and you’ll get hundreds of ideas. I cut and color my own hair (I come from a hairstylist family), so I save lots of money there. My hair is long, and easy to layer. I use hairstyling instructional videos for reference on YouTube. Look to Pinterest for new makeup ideas too. If you feel put together, your confidence will come back quickly. Best of luck to you in your job search! Just walk in to your interview telling yourself you are marketable, and your potential employer will be impressed with what you have to offer. Your confidence will come across in your interview.
Post # 3
I don’t think it takes a lot of money to look put together. I find that little things add up to make a big difference, and many of them are things I can do at home for free or with relatively inexpensive one-time investments.
I feel most polished when I give myself a blowout, am taking decent care of my skin (could be as simple as moisturizer/sunscreen and exfoliating), wear natural looking makeup (concealer, bb cream or light foundation, mascara, eyebrow pencil, and a little color on my lips & cheeks), and give myself a DIY mani/pedi in a neutral color or a classic red.
A put together casual outfit can be as simple as dark jeans, a tee or blouse, and neutral or black flats/booties/heels; simple jewelry (my go tos are stud earrings, a stainless watch, and my wedding set) and a structured bag also help pull together the look. Make sure everything fits well, is clean and properly maintained. Don’t underestimate the power of getting things tailored, ironing/steaming wrinkles, using a lint roller, and cutting loose threads – simple but a huge impact. None of this is the most exciting but I think that polished looks are usually simple and streamlined.
Also, in the interest of feeling strong and confident, working out (could be free at home with yoga videos or taking up jogging!) and eating well (this is a great time to learn some healthy new dishes) can have a huge impact!
Post # 4
For hair (and maybe nails) do you have a good beauty school nearby? Several years ago when I was stuck in an underpaying job and money was tight, I used to get my hair done at a beauty school. It was very cost effective but the downside was a hair appointment sometimes took a lot longer than usual. (I’ve been a demo model for an instructor as well.)
As far as clothing… I like solid black with pops of color, maybe some cute scarves. You can nearly always find pretty scarves on clearance or even nice silk onces as thrift/resale shops.
Post # 5
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misslucy : Yes to scarves! They can dress up any outfit (basic solid colored tee or other shirt, jeans or other slacks/dress pants depending on your workplace, maybe a light cardigan as well). When I worked in a more formal office setting I used to get all of my work pants at thrift stores, so many great bargains with a bit of legwork to hunt them down!
Post # 6
anonee008 : I do my own nails. Classic red, dark burgundy, or a dark neutral make me feel confident and like a bawss 🙂 The only thing is, you have to be really diligent in redoing or removing as soon as it starts to chip. Mine usually last a good week, then I redo Sunday night.
Post # 7
Not clear to me why you need to spend money to look good at all.
I get my hair cut like 3x a year, and just keep it simple and brushed. I leave my nails natural, and get compliments somewhat regularly on them. I don’t wear any makeup. My clothes fit me. I don’t think anyone would call me frumpy.
I think it’s more about the confidence you feel and people sometimes use beauty products as a crutch to feel confident. Which is fine because people can do whatever, but something to keep in mind when you’re on a budget
Post # 8
Honestly, neutral clothes go a long-ass way. I second Pinterest! Jeans can do SO MUCH for you.
When it comes to fashion, less is more. Simple black tops, jeans, and a simple pair of black booties, paired with a neutral handbag, a golden necklace, golden matching earrings, and just some mascara – that, to me, is a really lovely look. And you can use that black top with ANY type of bottom. Those jeans with ANY type of top. Those booties can go with a dress! Neutral items are your friend.
Post # 9
anonee008 : like above, scrves work wonders. It can be a short square scarf thet you can tie around you neck and it really put everything together. Try putting rollers in your hair at night or towel/pat druing hair and putting in a fun high bun.
eyeliner and lipstick go a long ways along with curling eyelashes.
lotion and perfume!
clotehs ironed and lint rolled off. 🙂
Post # 10
I always think a nice blouse with a pencil skirt and nylons looks really nice. Depending on the field you’re in, a nice necklace can also be a statement piece that pulls it all together. I also recommend scarves like PP!
Maybe YouTube some five minute face makeup routines for a nice polished look in a hurry. That’s all I can think of for now!
Post # 11
I envy the ladies who always have their nails done, but for a variety of reasons that just doesn’t fit in my lifestyle. Instead of painting my nails, I just shape them. All you need is a nail file, and it’s super quick and easy to maintain. My shaped nails always look nice. Personally, I alternate between round and almond shapes depending on my nail length.
Post # 12
Lipstick and heels. It will make you feel and look more put together and confident. Pair with neurtrals. You say that you are dressing for comfort – take the effort to do your hair or put on makeup, if you feel comfortable doing any of those things. Get out of the house – volunteer, go just go to Starbucks and work on something. You’ll feel better.
Post # 13
I would skip the scented lotions and perfumes for work. Many people struggle with allergies and others just find scents irritating. Being fragrance free is just good work manners and showing consideration for others.
Post # 14
Hey bees! Thanks so so much for the helpful responses! It helped a ton!
I dug out a pretty scarf from the back of my closet that I had almost forgotten about this morning and it actually made me feel a little better already. Such a small thing, but a good reminder that the little things do add up. I think now I had given up for a while and slipped into a weird space of not caring because it felt pointless. I’m not naturally beautiful so like a PP pounted out, I was using beauty products and things like having my hair and nails done as a crutch and without it I felt a bit down on myself.
I’m going to look on pinterest and youtube for new ideas re styling my clothing and doing my make up. And I’m usually quite good with things like lint rolling etc but have been getting more and more lax even with that. Oh, and thanks for the PP who suggested working out, I think without realising it I gained a few pounds so my nicer clothes were feeling uncomfortable and tight and it made me feel lethargic and unmotivated. I don’t know why I didn’t connect the dots! So I had a super healthy breakfast and did a quick exercise routine at home. I really do feel a little better already. Thanks bees!
Post # 15
“Not clinically depressed but struggling” is a good way of putting it and I can relate to that and dressing for comfort 100% of the time was a big indicator of this for me. When it’s a struggle to just show up and be present, it’s easy to gradually stop taking an interest in appearance. Which leads me to my next question (I’m asking myself this as well as you). Are you sure you’re not, in fact, depressed? There are different degrees of depression and different ways of showing it. I hope you can get your groove back, but if you continue to struggle please consider speaking with someone.