(Closed) Tips on Tipping!

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Thanks Vic004! I was actually talking with my Fiance about this the other week and we were wanting to find some sort of "guide".

Post # 6
2249 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2020

that guide is absurd! I think tipping is out of control in the us. People you should tip are people who are working for someone else- so a waiter who works for a restaurant who is grrat desewrves a tip- but your hairstylist works for themself. they set their rates and decide what the services are worth. unless they go above and beyond- i say skip the tip!

Post # 7
1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We plan to tip the bartenders about 10% of the total bar bill (split between the two), the waitstaff 15% of the total *food* bill (to be distributed amongst the waitstaff by the lead), the hair/makeup artist 15%, the dj $50, and the string musicians about $25 each.

Post # 8
5 posts

As a wedding planner, I deal with this all the time!!

Personally, I think tipping in the US IS out of control. Having travelled all over the world, the US is really crazy in the tip department! Heck, if I go by the "guidelines", I’m supposed to tip the garbage man for doing his JOB!!!

Bear in mind, most vendors that you would tip (mainly bartenders & caterers) have already INCLUDED a 15-25% gratuity to their bill. The only vendor I recommend tipping is the valet guys…they work hard and are usually underpaid! But this nonsense about tipping the DJ, Band, Photographer, Bakery (who just deliver the cake and run!), Videographer, etc…..it’s insane. You can tip your officiant, IF they aren’t charging you. Often though, a thoughtful gift (such as a framed photograph of the couple w/ the officiant) is more appreciated than cash thrown into an evvelope!

Just keep it reasonable, unless your budget knows no bounds. I’ve seen it all, and yes, I have NEVER EVER been tipped by a couple! (in hundreds of weddings!!) Just makes me puzzled sometimes. (I would never expect a tip…I’m happy with a bride who says thank you at the end…and pays her bill on time!!! Shoot, most of the time I"m happy with a grateful bride!!!)


Post # 9
15 posts
  • Wedding: July 2010

Completely agree with AWeddings, tipping is out of control.  Our reception vendor already has a 17% gratuity added to the final bill and the rest of the vendors have set prices that we pay them (soloists, officiant, etc).  Think in normal circumstances – do you tip your officiant at church? No, but for special events you might get him/her a gift.  Do you tip soloists? Nope again special gift.  When you go to the bakery do you pay any more than what the recipt says? Nope.  They all have their prices set and that’s what you pay. 

However, I would recommend that you tip those who under normal circumstances you would tip – hair stylist, valet and any waitstaff that is waiting on YOU personally.  Often the bartenders and waitstaff only get a portion of the total gratuity given to the vendor so they depend on getting a little cash each time they bring you a drink. 

Post # 10
1205 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

We don’t have gratuity included with our catering total, so we gave each server $20. I wouldn’t have done that if there was already an additional charge!

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