(Closed) Tips to keep from crying.

• SweetRose2011
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: March 2010

When you feel tears coming on you can look up to help, but if they are taking pictures the whole ceremony that might be weird. 

• forforever
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: January 2011

I posted about this a little while back… and would love to hear the advice you get too! I hoped for cute, quiet little tears… and ended up basically sobbing during my private ceremony with immediate family. 

With a formal wedding about a year away, I’ve been practicing keeping my weeps in check while watching tear jerker movies, wedding shows etc. Ugh… not going so well.

• bellagio
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

I cried at my brother’s wedding. It was not cute (red face, weird frown, etc.). Maybe think about something funny? I’d also like some more tips on this!

• mg1363
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: March 2012

I know someone who sings at a lot of funerals, and what she does to keep from getting too emotional, is to think in her head about making a PB&J. Like everything. Taking it out of the cabinet, turning the twist tie off the bread, etc. I don’t know that you’d want to do this for your wedding because I’m sure you’d rather be thinking of the vows and everything as opposed to making a sandwich but I thought it was an interesting idea. This one will also prob be of no help at a wedding, but throwing it out there for future reference. My Mom’s friend is a very successful woman in a male dominated work place. She feels like if she cries in front of them, they’ll think less of her so she tries to block out the feeling and address it later. Like if she was told an idea that she worked really hard on wasn’t going to be used, she would think in her head “Two minutes ago I didn’t know this information and I was fine. This information was just as true before I knew it, but it didn’t effect me because I was unaware. I need to be as unaware as I was two minutes ago.” Then later, privately she will cry.

• Waves2
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: October 2011

Glad someone posted this. I cry over everything, i can’t even get through a hallmark commercial. This was helpful!

• milesbella
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: September 2011

The very first funeral I attended when I was 10 years old, I could not stop crying. My mother told me to sing the theme song to the Mickey Mouse show (okay, I’m dating myself…I’ll be 40 in March).  BUT to this day, anytime I feel a tear coming on, I sing it in my head, “Who’s the leader of the club that’s made for you and me?  M-i-c … k-e-y M-o-u-s-e.”

Maybe there is a different song you could sing in your head?

• magilnyc
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: January 2011

I am a HUGE cryer. I cry at everything. I am usually a mess at weddings. But guess what? I did not cry once during the whole wedding. So weird! I got a little choked up saying my vows, but then I looked at my Fiance smiling at me, and the tears went away. Who knows, you might surprise yourself

• oracle
• 7 years ago

I actually think crying is beautiful – but, I also understand not wanting to be a bawling mess the whole time.  For starters, try not to worry about crying TOO much and have a plan for tears (ie: kleenex, makeup blotting and someone to redo/check it afterwards).

Focus in on your Fiance when you are walking down the aisle and try to block out everything else.  That will help you focus and not be too overwhelmed with everything else.

I also thought I’d be bawling during the ceremony (pre-wedding, I cried during almost every wedding show where they showed the couple saying their vows), but I only teared up once during the ceremony.

• Bubu82
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: October 2011

Like oracle, I think the crying can be beautiful and touching. It’s obviously tears of happiness and good emotion, not like you are crying because you don’t want to go through with it.

But my problem is, when I cry, my nose runs. A LOT. Not very sexy or beautiful. So I am trying to find ways to keep it in check, too.

I wonder if being nervous helps rein it in a little?

• PitBulLover
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: August 2010

You might surprise yourself and not cry at your wedding! I am a huge crier and only got teary eyed during our ceremony, not sobbing or anything! I was crying so much right before our wedding because I was so emotional but then actual ceremony and nope didnt happen! I choked up just a bit when I was saying our vows and when my husband was saying his but thats it!

• HayleyJane
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: June 2012

When I’m trying not to cry at a wedding (though admittedly I have not yet done it as a bride!), I usually focus on the pattern in the carpet or count numbers of stained glass panels and the like.  Doesn’t always work, but it’s worth a try.

• moderndaisy
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: May 2010

Concentrate on your breathing and not locking your knees 🙂

I am also a crier and I cried down the aisle since I saw Darling Husband crying (bawling actually).