Post # 1
Our evening wedding is going to be out of town and attendees will have to either stay overnight or drive home late at night (the venue is about two hours away for most people). How can I best prevent guests from overindulging and attempting to drive home after the reception?
We are going to have some of our older teens run an “I Do” Uber service to local motels, but I’d love to hear any other ideas as well.
And if we hire bartenders, does the legal liability shift to them or could we still be held legally liable if (God forbid) anyone were to be involved in a DUI related accident driving home?
This topic was modified 4 years, 4 months ago by laurenjo.
Post # 2
DEFINITELY make sure your servers are certified for the area you are in.
and I would make sure there was an extra room reserved just in case for guests who shouldn’t be driving.
Post # 3
Does this happen often in your circle? I think adults are responsible enough to have a designated driver, especially if the event is two hours away. A shuttle is fine to local motels, but if they aren’t staying the night there isn’t anything you can do. Bartenders know not to overserve, if they are licensed. Have some cab numbers on hand, maybe?
Post # 4
You should definitely hire licensed bartenders. They are taught not to overserve as well as when to know to cut someone off. Technically if someone were to drive drunk the bartender could be held liable, but that usually never happens. All fault lies with the driver.
And truthfully, it is the adults responsiblity to determine if driving is something they should or should not be doing. So besides having a number of a cab company or making sure you have the uber app available, there isn’t much you can do.
You just have to trust your guests to make the right decision.
Post # 5
– Hire licensed bartenders
– Have options clearly listed and available for people to use–such as posting the uber app and numbers for local cab companies somewhere where guests can find them. I’d have another option besides uber just because guests over a certain age might not be comfortable with that
– Is the venue seriously in the middle-of-nowhere? There’s not a single motel/hotel nearby that you could also post information about (in case the one you’re staying at yourselves is booked the night-of)?
– I doubt that you personally are responsible for any problems that happen after your event–you might be if you held your wedding in a private home, but the venue is a public, commercially-operated place.
…Is this a serious concern for your family/friends? In all honesty, if I had to drive 2 hours to a wedding and knew I had to make that drive back, I’d handle myself appropriately. Because I’m an adult. Your guests should be too.
Post # 6
This is exactly why I’m against an open bar. I don’t want the liability (emotional, if not monitary) if one of my guests overindulges and has a DUI.
Post # 7
Your guests should be able to make these decisions on their own. How do they manage other non-wedding events?
Post # 8
you can have last call a little earlier if this is a big concern. but i wonder why you don’t think you have responsible adults coming to your party.
Post # 9
Yes, becasue a cash bar will definitely stop people from getting drunk **hard eye roll**
Post # 10
I don’t see how you would be held liable. I know when I worked at a bar we knew not to serve the drunks as we would be liable as well as the bar owner.
Post # 11
the liability will vary greatly from state to state. I would research the social host liability laws in your particular area to see (a) what liability, if any, exists and (b) is it on you as the host vs. the venue as a license server. Some states won’t hold you liable if the guest/driver hurts themselves
but will hold you liable for injuries they cause by driving drunk into another car. It’s an evolving area of law and as I said, it varies a lot.
ETA: if this is a serious concern for your guests definitely check with a local attorney to be 100% certain!
ETA2: licenses bartenders are a great idea, but INSURED is more important in the event something happens.
Post # 12
We got yelled at so many times about not providing transportation for our guests, and we are in a very similar situation. In my opinion, guests need to hold themselves responsible.
But, I do agree with PP, make sure you hire licensed bartenders!
Post # 13
They are adults, they need to make their own decisions. We are having open bar and aren’t providing transportation. Your Uber idea sounds good. I listed some taxi services on our wedding website… thats about it. I was considering a shuttle afterwards but everyone is staying at different hotels. TBH its kind of their problem not mine. Like any responsible adult, don’t drink too much. But if you do, call a cab.
Post # 14
if you are worried about liability you can also get insurance for the event (my venue required us to do this – it was only a few hundred and it also covered if someone broke something or got hurt there – it was an old mansion filled with antiques)
my suggestion would be renting a bus/trolley/van etc to get guest to/from your wedding as this is what is commonly done in my circles – you rent transportation so that no one has to drive and everyone can party (and if someone wants to drive all the way home and not stay at the hotel then they need to handle that on their own)
Post # 15
On another note…. Keep in mind that you’d be personally liable (If not legally liable) for the drivers & passengers of the cars too – so if something would happen with an accident non-DUI related….do you have a plan/agreement for that?
I mean, I’d definitely volunteer if I were a kid and wanted to make some money, but, keep in mind that even if they all have proof of insurance, etc., they miiiiiight expect you to pay the deductible if something happened to their car while doing a favor for you.