Post # 1
Disclaimer- This will be a long post!
When I met my SO he was working 2 jobs and so was I. He was reserved and appeared to have a level head. He lived by himself and had his own car. A couple of months in, he needed my help. His car was up for repo, he asked if he could park his car at my house. I said yes. Then it finally got repossessed, then he asked to use my second vehicle. Keep in mind we weren’t officially a couple. I said yes. He drove my car for 6mths+, he never offered insurance$(which he would’ve got a ticket if it wasn’t covered). I asked him one month to at least help with insurance=$40 offer. Then it needed to be fixed=$500. He asked me for$300 cause it was my car, he said. Also stating he needed to get back and forth to work. I gave it to him to help. I also found out he was sneaking to casino in my car which I asked not to drive to far because it needed work. Mind you I never bothered him, kept track of his whereabouts, or made him come over everyday while he drive my car. I would take him out to nice restaurant because that’s what I like. He always took the cheap route or complained about how much a meal costs. Fast forward… I asked him what are we doing? I’m ready to move on, if we not going forward. FF… So, I move in. Now I only have one job. Found out he is insecure and jealous. Accuses me of lying about my shift and etc. And also seeing other men. I move out, he drives an hour everyday to see me and take me on dates. I move back in, he promises to take care of me and let me handle the finances because he lacks knowledge. Lies! Bills go past due, get cut off, I found it he owes IRS and hasn’t paid in years. Like a financial mess! He loses his job, I stand by him and help him find another one. Holding him as he cries to support. But when my co worker was murdered, he left to visit his mother. Also found out he gives his mom$every month and refused to stop. FF…I move out again for a month. Come back and give an ultimatum to let me handle finances and treat me better. He has not shown any change yet. I haven’t even got a key to the apt. So heart broken, tired and confused. Now that he had a better job he feels like he doesn’t owe me any appreciation. Never takes me on special dates, no flowers, no trips or etc. But complains I’m the reason why he never has money. Waiting on a change but I fear it will never come. I feel like I was there for him through his toughest time, he made so many promises he has never kept. I know how it feels to be truly loved by a man and I have never felt his love. But he says I only compare him to other men. My heart keeps me here but my mind says run don’t walk. We’ve been together for 2 years, living together for 1 year. I’m unemployed he never offers me any$, I have to ask and remind. He leaves work everyday to come home either to check on me or talk. Then says I’ma make him lose his job and I want him to be down and out. I have no where to go and no money. I’ve exhausted my resources because I always come back. He accuse me of lieing about work and riding by/stalking when I had a job. Causing lots of arguments everyday. I sit in house everyday now and barely go anywhere. When I do he calls me nonstop, texts 911 to meet up or follows/finds me. So many problems, not happy but can’t find strength to walk out for good.
Thanks for any advice. I had to release this some where.
Post # 2
I didn’t make it all the way through this admittedly but definitely RUN.
ETA: ok i read the whole thing. I don’t see one example in your entire post of your boyfriend being anything other than a raging asshole who treats you terribly. There is literally no silver lining here, nothing good about this mofo, not even the slightest hint of something verging on a single redeeming quality. Get out!
Post # 3
120% leave and don’t look back. This isn’t a partnership.
Post # 4
mochachic : My advice is to run as well but I don’t understand how you went from two jobs to one? Did he force you to quit? I would try to find employment ASAP in order to have some sort of means to support yourself and leave and don’t go back.
Post # 5
Did I miss the part where he ejaculates diamonds? Because I’m not understanding how staying with a guy like this is even a question.
Post # 6
I read your whole post. My one and only question is, “Why would you stay?” There’s nothing in this relationship for you except wasted time and youth, and not advancing career or money wise.
Post # 7
I don’t think you need any advice. Read your own words.
Post # 8
Can you get on unemployment so you have some income? Can you stay with family or friends?
Post # 9
sweatergal007 : No unemployment for me. My family is not close, they know my situation. I stayed with my sister for the month I left. But other people only let me stay for a day or two Max. And I’ve helped them pay their rent, car notes, etc. When I was self employed.
Post # 10
knotyet : I stay because I’m hopeful he will wake up see what’s standing in front of him. I feel like he’s never had a real relationship with a strong women. I’m not a pushover but I’m too forgiving. He does cook and clean when I refuse but I feel like that doesn’t count.
Post # 11
Ok I’m exhausted reading this! How old are you and he? Regardless, RUN. The other bees are very thoughtful in their responses and I’m sure will give you great practical advice.
Please stop wasting your life with this person. It doesn’t sound like you even really love him you’re just afraid of him and stuck. Please GTFO. Whereabouts are you located, there may be help available to you.
Post # 12
Lost me at “sneaking to the casino.” Drop him, he’s using you. You deserve so much better!
Wait, why are you unemployed now, if you don’t mind sharing that?
Post # 13
feedthebeags : I worked out of my home and worked for they county. When I moved in, I have up my self employment. I also went from 7-3pm shift to 11-7am at the county. That’s when the jealous really came out. I quit and moved to another city but got sucked back into relationship. SMH!
Post # 14
I just don’t understand at all…there is literally nothing good about this and you let this guy ruin your life. You went from having 2 cars and a good job to being trapped in his house. You are at rock bottom. And now you need to get the hell out of this situation and get your life back. He is a horrible abusive human. You don’t deserve this. There is so much more waiting for you when you get away from him. Go get your life back .
Post # 15
I will admit I also read one or two lines and failed to continue because my mind was made up that quick. I would break it off personally.