(Closed) Tired and wishing this was still fun

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
601 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

first of all, I’m so sorry for your loss.  It’s heartbreaking and I send prayers from Allies across the Atlantic here in Scotland.  So tragic, I hope you and your family are coping – I just want to give you a hug.

Regarding your wedding – most brides feel like this at some stage in their planning, never mind all the additional stress and grief you have on top of that.  My advice would be, give yourself a break, seriously.  Stop being so hard on yourself, you will never please everyone so ignore the family member who is being an ass.

Do you have a close friend on Bridesmaid or Best Man you can lean on for a bit of extra support while your family are coming to terms?  Maybe she could come with you to appointments and things?

It’s hard to say the right things when you know someone is hurting, I just want tosay I’m sorry for everything you’re dealing with and I will pray for you.  Time is a great healer, and I’m sure you’ll have a beautiful wedding.  You’re not alone xx

Post # 4
3697 posts
Sugar bee

I am so very sorry for you loss. This must be a hard time for your entire family, and I know it will be a bittersweet thread running through your wedding. I hope, though, that it can be a celebration of hope and renewal for all of you – that you can take some time to acknowledge the loss of your brother and honor his memory, and then raise a toast to the future and the fact that life goes on. Whatever you end up choosing to do with all the details of the wedding, the important thing is that it will be a chance for you to gather with your families. That’s really all that matters. I’m sorry that one family member doesn’t see it that way, but I hope that this can be a really special time for all of the rest of you to come together and draw strength from one another.

Post # 5
243 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I just wanted to say that I am sorry for the loss of your brother. I can’t image dealing with that while in the process of wedding plannning.

As difficult as it may seem right now, just try to focus on the most important part: at the end of the day, you and Fiance will be married!  Is there one part of the wedding that you are the most excited about? Maybe concetrate on those areas and let your planner take care of the tasks that you don’t enjoy.  

Don’t feel selfish for wanting to have your wedding 2 hrs away! I have fought with my parents about this for my own wedding.  They argued that a wedding that is 2 1/2 hrs away is a “destination wedding” and that my guest list would have to be cut dramatically.  I disagreed: I have been to several weddings where the majority of guests had to drive up to 4 hrs. Guests enjoyed having a weekend away and everything was beautiful.

I wish you all the best!  I understand that this process can be frustrating, but it will all be worth it in the end.

Post # 6
1406 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’m so sorry about your brother.  I completely understand why you are tired and frustrated.  If possible, think of your brother and how he’d want you to continue the wedding planning.  Plus I think it can help bring your family together during such a hard time to have a wonderfully happy event like a wedding.  ((HUGS)) to you and your family for your loss.

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