Post # 1
Seriously, who the hell came up with bridesmaids lmao! I have four and three of them are awesome! I just have one that is giving me severe hell. Haven’t spoken in months. than she needs to get reminded about my bridal shower from the maid of honor (She’s over 40 is not like she’s 20 for fuck sakes), she cried about standing last in line during the ceremony, and every input has been negative. Now I have to have 2 different bachelorette parties because she doesn’t get along with a couple of my other bridesmaids. My wedding is exactly 60 days away and I’m tired of this crap! I just want to tell everyone to put up or shut the hell up!!! This is about my fiance and I not who is standing where or how they can’t get along! Theres alot more to this story but I really don’t need to write a novel. Bridesmaid should feel honored to be in a wedding not bitch and complain. I’m far from a bridezilla just an FYI!!!! Advice please.
Post # 3
maybe it is worth taking her to coffee and having a nice sit down talk. maybe she has something else going on in her life and is feeling overwhelmed… Idk, but you may be able to politely let her know what you expected of her and also hear her side to see if there is a reason she has been slacking…
Post # 4
I completely understand except ALL of my bridesmaids except one has been awful. Im not a bridezilla either at all, but they wont do anything even show up for a dress fitting!! Im kicking them out. If they are going to whine and bitch, they do not need to be standing up with me. I dont need the added stress and neither do you. Remember its YOUR day.
Ask her first if there is a reason for her behavior. If not definatley consider not having her stand up with you.
Post # 5
@ivoryowl: I have spoken with her and said that I felt she was being negative and I can’t deal with that energy at this time. And she is the type of person that doesn’t see what she’s doing. She may think it’s coming off nice but it’s not. There are people out there that really don’t think they have said anything wrong and just can’t see it. I just don’t know how to approach it anymore. She has never acted like this until I asked her to be in the wedding than crazy began coming out of the woodwork.
Post # 6
Forget the second bachelorette party. If she doesn’t want to go the main one, she doesn’t go at all.
Post # 7
@paula1248: The issue is if she goes to the party she will not be happy and cause an arguement with the other girls, that’s why I decided to have two so that I don’t have to deal with the drama.
Post # 8
can you cut her from the list and find somwione else? i dont think u need 2 have 2 bachelertte party just because of her, you can just ask her to come or forget about it. the wedding is about you. not her
Post # 9
Well, truthfully, no one wants to stand last in that bridesmaids line – all it shows is that you’re less important than the ones before you, which doesn’t exactly make you feel “honored.” Maybe you’re not as good of friends as you thought you were when you chose your BMs.
Post # 10
I know exactly how you feel! Except for me it my MOH!! All of my bridesmaids are great, but my sister is being a complete witch! :/ I reallllyy wish Fiance and I could just take my wedding dress to our honeymoon spot and get married there! lol Buuut everything is already paid for so I guess I will just do my best not to kill my sister before the wedding day! lol Hopefully you can have a sit down talk with the one girl and maybe work some stuff out.
Post # 11
Deep breath. Hang in there, the last leg can be stressful, but it will be worth it in the end. I’m sure all your girls will be loving and supportive on your wedding day. 🙂
Post # 12
@hisprettygirl: great, now i’m going to have a complex when making the line up for the bridesmaids. Someone has to be last, it’s not because i think less of her, and I’ve never thought that when I’m at other weddings…is this common?
Post # 13
@hisprettygirl: That’s absurd. If you’re a bridesmaid, it’s because you are one of the VIP’s among the guests. If someone is overly sensitive about standing at the end of the line, that’s just utterly ridiculous.
Besides, in my experience, usually the determining factor in how you order the bridesmaids/groomsmen is height. Aside from the Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man whose places are predetermined, I’ve usually seen people get paired up based on how their heights match, and the order they walk in depends mainly on how they will be standing in the photographs.
Post # 14
Oh for crying out loud. All she needs to do is show up for the wedding in a pretty dress. Is it that big of a deal??
Post # 15
@hisprettygirl: how does it make you any less important to stand last?? I’m lining my girls up by height there is no rank of importance going on there. I had no idea people actually thought that
Post # 16
I wish my mother could read all of these bridesmaid horror stories and stfu about me not wanting bridesmaids for this reason!