(Closed) Tired of hearing “weddings are stupid/a waste of money” etc

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
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591 posts
Busy bee

I had to stop talking about planning my wedding because of comments like you mentioned. It was rather annoying. But on the bright side, it helped me cut down on my guest list. I figured people who thought my wedding was a waste of money, didn’t want me “wasting” my money on them. MWAHAHAHAHAHA!

Post # 33
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’ve heard this as well, very often, and I am somewhat of the same opinion.. but at the same time, people can do whatever they want. If that means spending xxx amount on a dress or venue or whatever, so be it. It may not be the choice that I would have made, but that doesn’t matter, because it’s not my wedding πŸ™‚

Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@octopus: Those comments are SOOO RUDE!  I can’t believe your family said two of them.  People are damn bold, I’ll tell you that — do they share such unfiltered opinions when other family members have a big purchase, like a car?  I’m betting not.

Post # 38
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

My parents keep telling me how stupid it is to have a wedding at all. Easy for them to say, they already had theirs!

Post # 39
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120 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m in the same boat! Why can’t people be happy?

Post # 40
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I was actually in tears about this today.  Our families have grasiously offered to help out with the wedding (a good thing, b/c otherwise there wouldn’t be one), but even so, they constantly drop hints about how we are not making the financially responsible decision to have a wedding at all.  And we’re not talking an extravagent affair- we’re trying our best to keep to a budget.  I think the most frustrating thing is that they act like we haven’t considered the pros/cons of the wedding vs. saving for a house/etc.  Of course we have!  It would be great to bank all of the money, but a wedding is not something you can redo later in life (at least not hopefully, and not with the same fiance:), and we’d like to celebrate with our friends and family.  This process is far too stressful in and of itself to deal with people’s criticism too!

OK- sorry for the rant, but I really needed that.

 

Post # 42
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I feel strongly that no one should go into debt for a wedding HOWEVER that said …

 

There is a Jewish tradition that weddings are a couple’s first act of hospitality to their friends and family — as well as their first act of community (bringing together all the people from both sides who have likely never been brought together before but are uniting around you). I also believe that people want to show that they support you, and they want to be physically present to do so.

Whenever someone tells you weddings are a waste of time perhaps you could say, “Yeah, I hear you, but…” and then give them any of the above reasons (if they ring true for you).

Post # 43
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Wow, ladies that stinks! I’ve NEVER heard anyone say weddings are stupid/waste of money.

I have, of course, heard that spending X on a wedding may be “stupid” but never flat out, that weddings are completely a “waste of money” πŸ™ Sounds like there are some bitter people making these comments…..

Post # 44
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241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’ve also always felt weddings can get pretty wasteful…but I would never tell someone who I know is having a big wedding and I especially wouldn’t bring up divorce!D: It’s true, people spend money on frivilous crap all the time so why judge people who wanna splurge on something legitimately special πŸ˜›

Post # 45
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@menobride: omg i so wanna use that i dont want to go to any of your partys!!! lol so good!!!!

Post # 46
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

my above comment was to another topic? i have no idea how it is on this one now?

 

ignore this…im a idiot

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