Post # 1
First off, I love this website. I’m not engaged yet but I love reading about all of your creative ideas and stores. I know writing thank you notes takes a long time- but frankly I’m sick of going to wedding showers, weddings, and baby showers for close friends and and never receiving a note back… here is a recent run down of thing I can remember.
Close College Friend – Wedding in August 2010: Attended out of state reception. (I was single at the time and I drove myself five and a half hours to her home town). I paid for a hotel for two nights. Gift: 100 check (which cleared my account the monday after the wedding). Not a fancy reception (just a VFW hall), but I never received a thank you note.
Very Close High School/Collegue Friend: Recieved Thank You Note for her Shower in March 2010 (100 dollar gift from Crate and Barrel), but not for 100 check for the reception that I attended in June 2010 (single then). (again, I know they cashed it). Attended her Baby Shower in November2011. No Thank You Note yet and I spent 80 on a gift, plus 3 hours to drive there and back.
Close Friend & Work Collegue #1: Attended Bachelorette Party In September 2011 : Bought her her Dinner/drinks and also Spent 60 dollars on a gift. No Thank You. Attended her Wedding in October and gave her 100 check (My Boyfriend or Best Friend couldn’t make it as he was working so my gift was for one person attending). Again, no Thank You note.
Work Collegue #2: Attended her all day long baby shower in early October 2011 (wtf). Bought a nice couple of outfits from baby gap that Suri Cruise would be proud to wear. Nothing.
I know people are busy. I know times are hectic. But seriously girls. If you can make time to do these 1 million DIY projects before your wedding, can’t you make the time to write Thank You notes afterward? It doesn’t have to be complicated. Heck, if you forget what I got you, just say “nice gift” and write the same thing on every card. But please, for some of these weddings I was a single girl trying to make ends meet and I came to every event for you. And I was buying a classy gift off of your registry or a check. It doesn’t take long to write a little note of thanks.
Post # 4
i’ve also experienced this lately. it’s not THAT difficult, people. (she says as she works up the energy to write her shower thank yous)
Post # 5
@katiebbee: agreed! And I know it can be a pain in the ass, but I felt so good writing all my shower thank yous. And I was really happy to hear from my mom’s friends, FMIL’s friends and directly from my friends how much they loved my notes! It was a really good feeling and I really was thankful for the gifts I received.
There have been a few occassions when I never recieved a Thank You and I was annoyed, even just a generic card to acknowledge my gift would have been nice.
Post # 6
Amen to that!
I am a big proponant of Thank You cards! I am also sick of not recieving them…it’s horrendous!
Twice I’ve been invited to weddings, and not rec’d one. Well, when those ladies baby showers rolled around, I was understandably all tied up that day. Ya know what? You don’t appreciate my time or my gift for your wedding? You’re not getting anything else from me!
Post # 7
I guess it’s never bothered me… I just thought back to a wedding I went to and a wedding I was in and I didn’t get a note from either but I don’t really care… it’s just a note- they can save the trees and just call or say thank you to me the next time they see me and I’m good.
Post # 8
Totally agree; I make it a point to send thank you notes as promptly as I can. Lol I am the person who sends a thank you note for getting a thank you note (thank you Mom for your OCD)
Post # 9
Yeah…I think I can give people the benefit of the doubt, but it’s hard when no one does it.
I think people just aren’t taught to do it anymore. I can’t blame someone for not knowing any better, I just make sure to send them TYNs every time I get a gift.
Post # 10
I HATE writing thank-you notes. But seriously, for big events like wedding/baby showers and weddings, you NEED to write them. If you want to “Go Green” at least send an e-mail or call, (maybe send traditional thank-yous to people who would prefer them, like your Grandma, etc.).
Post # 11
@HappierKate: Good point. I’m thankful for parents who have taught me to do so. Also, my bf’s birthday was last week and when I came over yesterday I saw him writing notes to his grandparents. Cutest thing ever. I asked him if he always does that and he said yes.
Post # 12
I completely agree!! We had all of our TYs out before we cashed ANY checks or opened any gifts– they were all out within 2 weeks of our wedding. I’ve been experiencing this a lot lately, and it makes me sick. When I was a kid, we wrote thank yous to everyone for every gift (birthday, Christmas, etc.). I still write thank yous for those gifts as an adult! And what’s with the crappy Facebook “thank you” cop out?? Writing “thank you for the gift” on my Facebook wall is NOT an acceptable thank you for a $200 gift.
Post # 13
@katiebbee: Amen! You are preaching to the choir here!
I have been wanting to rant about this too. I am sick of no thank you’s as well!
I got a text 5 minutes after leaving a bridal shower saying thanks for the gift. It was a group text. No formal thank you to follow. This has bugged me. Texting is the way we communicate more and more –but for a formal thank you? No thanks.
Another girl –> bachelorette gift –no thank you, jack & jill gift –no thank you, baby shower gift –no thank you. At this point I refuse to buy this person another gift.
I bought a $75 gift card to Victoria’s Secret for another bride’s shower and one week later she called the wedding off. However, six months later she sent a thank you card for her gift. Go figure. People are bizzare.
Post # 14
@frenchie427: I would have cut that person off after the J&J….
Post # 15
Anyone getting a lot of this very cute Thank You notes with the Bridge & Groom’s photos on them? They are splendid —but everytime I open them up of flip it over to look at the back, there is nothing written inside. This too bugs me. It is like me mailing someone a blank card IMO, but atleast I got one.
Post # 16
@frenchie427: I got that for another wedding I didn’t mention. It is definitely pretty but bugs me too. Just write a few sentences.