- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
Everyone on here is in fact very supportive of each other, but I do feel that real opinions and advice are given. Do you have examples of what you mean?
I don’t think the idea is to “sweet talk” everyone, but I do think it’s supposed to be a supportive community — not all of us attacking each other or our ideas.
Plain and simple: if you don’t like what people are saying, don’t read it! I always find that I disagree with etiquette posts, so I just try to avoid them.
You don’t have to agree with everyone here. You can give your own opinions…you just can’t straight out be a bitch.
oh boy. a drama bait post!
Sure, but you have to be VERY careful of how you say things. Too many people get bent out of shape over the stupidest things, and then that makes everyone who gives real honest opinions look bad.
There is a difference between being real and being mean or nasty for no reason. Don’t be surprised when you people call you out on it when you cross that line. You’re actually bothered enough by me telling you it’s mean to call part of someone’s dress ugly and stupid to start a new thread? Which, by the way, is called baiting and is against the TOS.
My real opinion is: this will end badly.
In general, yes I think it tends toward sugar-coating/sweet-talking – if you prefer more snark/less friendly, go to the Knot. (not being snarky just saying the truth). I think there are plenty of ‘honest’ bees as well but the trouble always comes when an ‘honest’ bee is honest on a ‘only-wants-to-be-sweet-talked’ Bee’s post.
So there should be a happy medium – be a little nicer in your replies than necessary, but if you post – expect honest answers that may not be what you wanted to hear.
Drama Llama!!! LOVE THIS!
It’s all in how you word it. You have to remember that some people are more sensitive by nature, and some people it just depends on the day.
I know I am SUPER sensitive today since my vendor cancelled on me and I have 5 wedding appts. in a row coming up.
You have to keep in mind that everyone is different. Giving an opinion and “just being honest” is not a free pass to be rude or snarky, which I have seen on this board from time to time.
@Wonderstruck: If someone asks for an opinion, and I think their dress is ugly, I’m going to say it. How is that being mean? Its being HONEST. Something that a lot of people here just can’t seem to take (hence why these posts get made, and also not directing this towards you directly)
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