Post # 1
I have been on the hunt off and on for a couple of months now and have tried on over 20 dresses. I supposed to go again with my FI’s aunt (like his mother) this afternoon, but I just can’t seem to be excited about it….
I am a size 12-14 street size making me about a 16 in bridal (Plus size to them.) In my eye I am not a true plus size girl. I’m just really curvy. So my options are diminished and even with the options I do have they don’t have a sample size in the store that fits me. There are a few dresses that I LOVE the way the look online or on the hanger, but I won’t and haven’t been able to try them on because the stores around here only have them in sample size 8. I have attempted to fit a size 10 and it almost ripped trying to get it on. That’s an ordeal in it’s self.
Ugh… I guess I’m just becoming a little discouraged because I have tried on so many dresses, but haven’t found the one and when I think it’s the one I can only see it on the hanger because it doesn’t fit me. PLUS I want my Mom to be here with me when I try on dresses or at least see the options before I decided but she lives across the nation (I’m in MD she’s in AZ) and most of the salons I’m going to won’t let you take pictures. :o(
Please tell me I am not the only one discouraged or tired of the great dress hunt. And please tell me I’m not crazy for trying on so many dresses and still not making a decision…
Post # 3
I’ve been looking on-and-off for even longer, with probably more dresses, so I understand. I have different issues – I can almost always get the dresses on, but they look strange on me because I don’t fill out the top well, or because the skirt is 5 inches too short and makes me look very oddly-proportioned. Plus it seems like there just isn’t enough variety in what all the different shops carry or what the designers offer. I’d love to see some variety in necklines and straps or sleeves.
I’m currently thinking I want to get a Casablanca gown, but with significant customizations. I’m planning on going in this week to talk with the shop owner about what’s possible.
Post # 4
I also got a bit overwhelmed with the dress hunt! Went to 4 different salons, and probably tried on 35-40 dresses. THE dress was the LAST one! And I LOVE it! Don’t give up, you’ll find it!
Post # 5
@MrsDiddles: Date twin! I completely feel your pain. I DREADED going dress shopping. I felt like there was so much pressure to find the ONE (thank you very much, Say Yes to the Dress!).
Given what you said about wanting your mom with you, I’m not sure this will help you but what worked for me was to go shopping alone. I got a very sweet consultant that let me just stand in the dresses while I went through an inner monologue of likes and dislikes. She was also able to give me unbiased advice when I needed it. I wasn’t having to fight against my mom’s hatred of lace or my sister’s nit-picking. It really relieved some of the pressure.
I might also suggest taking a break for awhile. After your appointment today, if you don’t find anything, take a few weeks off. Don’t even think about dresses. Hopefully that will help you pick up the hunt again with fresh enthusiasm.
Best of luck!
Post # 6
Aww, don’t get discouraged! I wear about a size 6 in regular clothes – which apparently translates to a 10 in dresses (mine was ordered in a 10). There were gowns I tried on that were small for me too! Then there were some salons that only had sizes 14 & 16 as samples and it was even harder to get an idea of what it would look like on my frame. Have you narrowed down what style gown you are looking for or what material?
The salon I ended up buying my gown from had a ton of sample sizes and they all welcomed picture taking. Have you tried calling the salons in your area to ask what designers they have and what sized samples (and whether you can take pictures)? You should definitely try on the gown before you purchase it! If your wedding isn’t until September 2012, you still have time – maybe take a little break from the search and focus on something else for the time being. My wedding is in May 2012 and I just ordered my dress 3 days ago!
Whatever you decide to do, don’t get discouraged or upset.
Post # 7
@MrsDiddles: Hi neighbor! Have you tried Curvaceous Couture in Columbia? They have a good selection and their samples will fit –or fall off– the average 12-14 girl. Good luck!
Post # 8
@HueysLuda: REALLY?!?! I might need to stop there! I went to Columbia Bridal Boutique today and I THINK I found what I am looking for, but I didn’t have that “Aha” moment that little girls dream about. So we’ll see…
Post # 9
@MrsDiddles: Yup. Lovely shop hidden in a business park, friendly staff, and lots of dresses (most are off the floor in the back). They have designers on the lower and higher end, so there is something for everyone. Check out their website, http://www.curvaceouscoutureonline.com/..
Looks like they are having a sale 🙂
I went to Columbia’s Bridal Boutique when I first started searching. I liked their service, so I returned Saturday to look for bridesmaids dresses. Not much luck. I found one dress that I’m considering out of the 30 something that we tried on. Booooo!!!! lol!