(Closed) Tired of trying and not knowing

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Have you tried more than one doctor?  I would get a few other opinions if I were you.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

How long have you been having unprotected sex? Have you tried taking your Basal Body Temperature to see if/when you’re ovulating and timing your lovemaking to coincide with that?

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

If you’ve been trying to conceive for at least 1 year, it’s definitely recommended to see a physician.  The doctor can check both yourself and your Fiance for any reproductive issues.  For example, they can do lab work on you to check your hormone levels and they can look at the sperm count/quality of your Fiance. 

Are you doing anything like charting or using ovulation predictor kits to determine when you’re actually likely to conceive?  If not, that may be something else to consider.

If you’ve been trying for a while, I would see your physician specifically with the concern that you haven’t conceived yet.  You may have to see a generalist physician who will do an initial evaluation and then you can be referred to a reproductive endocrinologist (for example) if necessary.

Edit:  I’m guessing the exam he did was to check organ placement/ size etc. 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

He isn’t too young and you need more than just “hand test”. You need to find a new Dr. and possibly even a fertility specialist.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

You should definitely check out the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility and see a doctor to have some bloodwork done. At your ages, doctors will be surprised that you haven’t gotten pregnant yet!

Post # 10
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Newbee

statistically, it is pretty difficult to get pregnant – i don’t think i’d be concerned yet per se. if you haven’t been doing anything active (OPKs, charting) then its not tremendously surprising to me. there are only a few days each month you can get pregnant and even with that 75% of conceptions end in miscarriage, usually before you even know you’re pregnant. even if you and your Fiance do it on the right day and everything, there’s only 30% chance of becoming pregnant. so i would say if you have just been having unprotected sex without any tracking or TTC intent, then its not surprising that you haven’t necessarily become pregnant. if you have been using OPKs and doing the deed on the right day for a year, then i would be concerned.

but yes, since its technically been more than a year, you should be more than able to talk to your doc seriously about it and take some preliminary steps (basic testing, etc).

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - MacLean Park

I agree with Bunny. Start actively trying to get pregnant, and you should be able to start seeing a difference. I’ve heard tons of good things about the Clear Blue Easy Fertility Monitor, which will tell you when your most fertile days are. As far as bbt, you take your temp every morning around the same time before you get out of bed and move around too much. You’ll see your temperature dip right around ovulation, then begin to rise as you progress toward your menses. If your temp stays elevated for more than 16 days, you’re most likely pregnant. If not, it will start to lower back down as you begin your period, and the cycle starts over. I used Fertility Friend.com to chart mine, and it’s great to see the progress over a few months so you can know when the best time is to focus on “baby-making”.

It took my husband and I 7 months of actively trying. I was charting, and doing a lot of other things to improve fertility. You can start taking prenatals, stop smoking (if you do), ease up on caffeine and alcohol (for both of you) and you may start to see a difference. I had to get bloodwork done due to my thyroid, to check and see if my body would be able to get pregnant. Also, antibiotics can wipe out a man’s sperm count (for up to three months after taking them!), so if your Fiance is often sick, that could also be an issue for you both conceiving.

Good luck!

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