(Closed) Tired of vagina problems!

posted 4 years ago in Intimacy
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

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AORiver15:  Well, I doubt the pain is related to the lack of a condom, it might just be a response to the sex itself… it sucks, but it does happen from time to time. If you’re looking to be doubly safe (I’m the same way, I’ve known too many women who got pregnant on hormonal BC alone!) I’d suggest looking into non-latex condoms, diaphrams, or at the very least the FAM to help prevent a “surprise”.  

I totally feel you on vagina issues though – I’m currently 34 wks pregnant and the idea of having sex with my husband is so daunting! I feel terrible because I know once the baby is born we’ll have a forced moratorium for at least 6 weeks (assuming no complications that make it longer) and I’d LIKE to have sex, I THINK about having sex, but when it comes to ACTUALLY having sex… I just can’t get into the mood.  The last few times have been lack luster and I’ve tried to explain to my husband that it’s not him, but of course he feels like he’s “failed” which makes me feel even worse!

Thank goodness for BJs is all I can say! 

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Urgh I feel your pain. Since coming off birth control and ttc I’ve had bv every month for about the last five months and it’s really getting to me too. I think it’s hormonal as I always notice the signs just before AF shows. This month I’m trying vitamin d, a higher dose of folic acid and probiotics but I’ve kind of resigned myself to the fact that I might just need antibiotics every month. I had this a few years ago for months on end as well and it eventually stopped. It’s so hard being a woman! I can’t remember the last time Darling Husband went to the doctor and I seem to be there on a monthly basis!

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Worker bee

I was having similiar issues where I would get BV, a yeast infection, or a UTI. It was like the three were on a hellish rotation. My doctor prescribed me a low dose antibiotic to take after sex every time. I also had my birth control pill changed. I made sure to eat a lot of yogurt, and it finally cleared up. Good luck!

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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AORiver15:  Yes that’s the one! I don’t drink either but I do notice that I don’t feel great the last couple of days of taking it. I’m hoping it will just pass like it did last time. Fingers crossed yours will too. 

Post # 8
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Worker bee

Sorry if this is really personal but are you new to having sex? If so, your vagina’s pH must not be too fond of your husband. I had a guy that set my pH balance through the roof every time we had sexual contact. It got to the point where we’d only have sex a few times a year because I was scared. I use to have yeast infections regularly as well. I amped up my probiotic intake (yogurt or pill form), started taking apple cider vinegar baths, increased my garlic intake (works wonders with yeast infections- insert a bulb vaginally at night. You can insert a string through it if you’re afraid of losing it. I would just place it near the opening & sleep with underwear on), inserting a tampon dipped in plain yogurt helps with yeast infections as well, tea tree oil diluted, I started taking cranberry vitamins to fight off uti’s (I have always loved cranberries so luckily I’ve never had a uti but you can never be too safe) & lastly water! Water. Water. Water. 

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Cambridge Mill

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AORiver15: Being a woman sure can suck sometimes ARGHHHH I have never had BV but I am so prone to yeast infections. A few years back I was getting one every month. Then my mom turned me to this natural product she ordered in from the UK. I would use a little after sex before bed and then I stopped all together and for years didn’t have one. A recent bout with anti-biotics has caused me to startgetting them quite easily but this product really helps aid in prevention.

It’s more about keeping the PH in balance natually and is specifically for BV (but normnal PH helps prevent yeast issues as well). My best friend was getting BV all the time and she started using this too and is BV free. I highly recommend it since it’s safe and natural and not that expensive. I took it to my doctor once to show her and be like “HEY look this worked for me when you couldn’t offer anything besides mediciated creams!” and she said that if it works GREAT lol…

http://www.multi-gyn.com/Treat-bacterial-vaginosis-Multi-Gyn-ActiGel.html

Feel free to PM me privately if you have any questions. I can share more but would prefer not to do so publicly.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Cambridge Mill

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jonesbee91:  That’s actually what I think the problem was with my friend. She was always getting BV but she was just starting to have sex for the first time with her now Fiance.

Probiotics – I second this! They are great for many reasons.

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’ve never had a BV, but for awhile, I was getting UTIs almost every time we had sex (it was a tortuous cycle – started to scare me off sex!) with the occasional yeast infection for variety. The urologist I saw said that some women are just more susceptible (lucky us). He gave me a low-dose antibiotic – I took it every day for 90 days to clear up any lingering issues, then switched to taking it after sex. So far it’s worked – maybe that’s an option for recurring BV too?

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

The sharp abdominal pain makes me think of PID and if you’ve had an infection down there before it’s possible that it got that far. Ask your doctor about Pelvic Inflamatory Disease.

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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 1989

Let me tell you my story. about a year ago, i started noticing symptoms of increased discomfort with sex, increased discharge, and burning when my fiancee finished inside of me for a few yours, along with decreased lubrication during sex. I went to the gyno. She told me i had BV, i took meds and felt ok for a few days until symptoms came back. Went back to her, she said it was back and to do another round of meds. This went on a few times. She became frustrated, and i felt anxious that it wasnt going away. She told me over and over that this was the problem it was just recurrent. She  even told me that i should see a therapist for anxiety because nothing was wrong with me! Even my mom believed her, but i pursued a second opinion.

I went to another OBGYN, she told me that while i did have white blood cells in my discharge, indicating infection, that the problem was yeast. i took otc monistat, with no relief. I was tested for all stds, all negative. I went back and she gave me oral antifungals, which made me terribly sick to my stomach for weeks. Still no improvement.

I decided to see a third doctor who was very nice and VERY honest. She told me i was very inflamed, and yes something was wrong. She also told me she had no idea what it was and maybe it was just an allergy and i would improve over time.
 

Im a nurse, and i know not to blindly take any doctors word. I took matters into my own hands. I researched the center for vulvovaginal disease in ny and washington dc. I saw an expert in pelvic pain and vaginal disorders. It was extremely expensive and he doesnt take insurance but i needed an answer. he immediately told me that i had DIV (desquamative inflammatory vaginitis) and that it was rare, most docs dont know about it. My bloodwork was out of whack, with very low estrogen and testosterone levels. He told me my skenes glands in my vagina were very inflamed due to this, causing the pain. the discharge was also increased because of this. he put me on 2 meds, that i take every day for almost a year now and if i stop taking them symptoms do come back. im releived i found an answer and he told me im not alone. many people go years having no idea whats going on with their bodies.

Long story short…see a specialist and trust your body! im so sad to hear you are going through a tough time, but you arent alone and you will find an answer. Dont let it worry you too much…good luck!

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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 1989

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velvetsea:  also the reason he told me this happened was because i took the pill so long (8 years) by body stopped producing its own hormones, leading to the DIV.

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