- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2012
First and foremost I know i am bit stressed. I am 8 days out from a wedding that I have been planning for 18 months. I have not been bugging my Catering manager/coordinator at my venue nor my florist and have not even reached out to them for the past month at all (and before then I only reached out when I had a question and via email so they could work on it when they had time). So earlier this week I hear from my coordinator with a short email that has our final invoice attached with a note that it will be charged today. I look at it while in line at the marriage license bureau and it is $3200+ over what it should be. So I sent back a short note saying please do not charge before calling me as soon as possible because it was not the correct amount. So i am going nuts trying to figure out how I made that big of a math mistake and how in the world we were going to cover it etc. She calls me and tells me the bill is right and I explain that I am in my car and can she call me back in a few minutes.
Well turns out she looks and the bill is wrong – her accounting staff made a typo and she did not review it before she sent it to me and she is like ummm no biggie you were not charged yet. She seemed annoyed that I was kind of panic’d.
So today I sent a polite note to my florist and coordinator below:
Good morning –
I apologize for bothering you both but I do need to ask a couple of questions. I am trying to lay out my schedule for next week and have not heard from either of you on when I should bring the supplies for the wedding for your review. I am not sure if the room layout for the reception is done and I would love to be able to give a gratuity to the hardworking staffs for both of you but would be great to have some guidelines on how many people I can expect to be involved.
If it is not too much trouble for either of you to let me know the answer to these questions I would be so grateful.
Both of them called me back and their first response was to gripe about how busy they were this week and next. Ummm yeah tell me about it. You know when your wedding is in a week you really do not want to hear this. My florist got past it when I just kept focusing on the questions 1. What items do I bring to you vs venue, 2. When next week do you have 1 hour to meet with me to review the decor items 3. How many people can I expect so I can tip appropriately.
We got through it and she was simply shocked I was working part of next week. I am in corporate management and yes I cannot just take off a month to get married and have a honeymoon.
So my coordinator lets me know that she is out of the office this morning and will be back this afternoon
So this is what I reply:
Thank you – I have chatted with Robin already and appreciate you getting back to me this afternoon. I am working Mon- Wed next week so needless to say my calendar is filling up fast and so I cannot be very flexible.
Well she called me back immediately and was like I am not in the office and I will get back to you this afternoon but next week I am super busy and I am going to be there 12 hours a day so we can work you in blah blah blah
I took a deep breath and said for her to call me back when she was in the office and had her calendar because next week I needed to meet with her for no more than 1 hour but wanted it to be when she could work with me for that hour.
She got her knickers in a twist and was like am I giving you the impression that I am too busy
I thought about it for a second and as politely as I could I told her yes. I could tell she was not happy with me.
Honestly bees am I a bridezilla? I am working with high end vendors – these are not friendors or new to the business and should I have to be dealing with crap like this 8 days before my wedding?