Post # 1
ok my finace and i have been together for 3 years …he gave me this ring only after he cheated on me with his ex only after a 1 year of dating.he backed out of the wedding soon after he gave me the ring again and i thought he was serious i bought my dress and his ring had most stuff bought only to have him back out again ….he gave me the ring back in december chose a month but we never got married its always something…first it was he wanted to buy me a better ring then it was a house then it was a job …i want him to get a better job but hes been on the same job since we been together so if we can live together and play house on that job theres no reason we cant get married i think hes just playing with me …
Post # 3
If someone cheated on me and then backed out of marrying me twice, I wouldn’t be waiting around for him to do it a third time. Sorry. 🙁
Post # 4
Seriously, there is someone out there who would love you and be more than excited to marry you.
Post # 5
You deserve someone who will love you & want to marry you as much as you want them. I know you care about this guy because you’ve invested in him but you are worth way more than that.
Post # 6
I’m sorry. He sounds so flighty. I am not trying to discourage you, but I don’t being married to him would be a good thing for you. It sounds like the first proposal was out of panic after cheating. There is no stability with this guy, and getting married won’t change anything.
Post # 7
I’m sorry but I wouldn’t bet on him marrying you. I was engaged to a loser who cheated on my and proposed to keep me around. He told me that he was going to do a lot of things. i.e. find a good job; marry me soon. Nothing happened at all. You should cut your losses now. You deserve better!
Post # 8
I don`t get how you he expects you to go back to waiting when he already gave you a ring. You been more then fair!
Post # 9
First and foremost, the ring symbolizes the commitment he wants to make because he loves you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you, and only you. It shouldn’t be a way to pacify you or a way to say, oops I messed up. The back and forth ring deal is a red flag to me. I think you’ve been more than forgiving and patient but you have to draw the line somewhere on what you are willing to put up with.
Post # 10
“i think hes just playing with me …’
Um, yeah. I think you’re right.
Post # 11
Adding my voice to the others. Hate to say it this way, but he has gotten used to treating you a certain way because you have always stuck around. You deserve way better. Don’t accept less than you (and you know, most humans) deserve.
Post # 12
@Eulalia: thanks everybody its what ive always known and im going to break up with him….
Post # 13
I know it’s hard and it probably will suck for a while, but think about how you will feel a year from now.Good luck! Hugs!