(Closed) Tired of Waiting.. Bf doesn't get engagements

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
3949 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@roughtimes88:  Maybe you could have his Mom or one of your friends explain it to him.

Also, have you READ some of the threads around here lately…. engagements are full of stress of planning the wedding.  The weddings are great tho!!!

Post # 4
635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I agree with you, I think it is a little selfish of him to dismiss your feelings so quickly, especially over something he doesn’t seem to care about. If he was like, morally opposed to engagements, that would be one thing. But if he truely doens’t care about engagements, he should just suck it up and do it for you. He should be willing to do something he genuinly doesn’t care about to make the person he loves happy. If it is important to you, he should be willing to do it for you.

That being said, I get the feeling that there is something else going on here. If he is really just not ready to get engaged, then he should be pressured into it. It’s possible that he just isn’t ready yet. But if he is being 100% honest and his real reason is that he just thinks engagements are unnecessary, then I think he’s being a little selfish and should be willing to compromise with you. If it truely doesn’t make a difference to him, then what harm will come to him by getting engaged?

Post # 5
147 posts
Blushing bee

I think he is being a tad selfish. It may not be important to him, but it’s important to you. How can you just buy a house and jump into marriage without the engagement? I don’t get his reasoning either.

The engagement is the period before marriage, where the planning and excitement begins. I think you need to make a list of the reason’s it’s important to you and let him know.

Hopefully he can understand and will change his mind!

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