Post # 1
Hello!! I have been stalking these boards for weeks, and actually found my future e-ring through this site!! ( moissy co eng952 in rose gold with 8mm center stone.)
anyways, I’m actually writing to get some advice… My “fiancé” and I are currently planning a surprise wedding for next June (we are going to say its an engagement party) but we don’t yet have my ring…. he isn’t making a lot of money right now, which is completely fine because we are both students and live a happy and fun life. I have recently “loaned” him tuition money for his school while he waits for financial aid to reimburse him. I put loaned in quotations because in my opinion my money is his too, but he’s weird about it. I got the idea that he shouldn’t worry about paying me back and should just use the money to buy my ring because I am financially stable and don’t need the money back. He is insistent that its not romantic and that he should pay for it, but I feel like I’m just giving him more time to surprise me (we agreed that I can help buy it if he doesn’t doesnt save up by December)…. Meanwhile I am DYING to have our engagement be official and will do anything to get a rock on my finger lol. I know that I will have it forevor after he proposes and blah blah blah, but it’s just not as exciting to plan our wedding celebration without a rock!!! What do you ladies think… Am I being ridiculous??? It also doesn’t help that all of my friends and family are engaged or married and we have been together longer than a few of them (3 years). Anyway, and I being crazy????
Post # 3
As a waiting bee I don’t think you are being ridiculous. I’ve been so impatient to get the rock on my finger too. All I can tell you is to try and be as patient as you can. Just know that you will eventually get the ring and the wedding and the man!!
Post # 4
I understand your frustration all too well. My SO has the ring, well technically I have it because its in my jewelry box, until he can catch me off guard in that romantic way lol. My best advice to you and just be patient and let him do it on his own time, because guys hate when we rush them. I know it’s tough to want to have it already, maybe you guys could get a cheapy ring (Clares, Pagoda, Macy’s) that could be used as a stand in to hold you over.
Post # 5
@Futurecoacheswife: You are being neither ridiculous nor crazy! I think most of us who are waiting feel just like you. One thing that has helped me lately (after hearing it from fellow bees) is focusing on how exciting this time is. There’s so much anticipation of the proposal and it’s kinda wonderful. In the grand scheme of things, this wait is so short. Then the engagement will be short. It’s nice to just cherish these moments of such excitement! Good luck 🙂
Post # 6
You’re only ridiculous and crazy if I am too! I want, want, want my ring because I want, want, want to show everyone that I belong to the man I love, and he belongs to me. I’ve got some basic plans for our wedding, but I feel like I can’t plan without an official engagement, which is unlikely to come before next June/July 🙁 Neither of us have much money, and apparently we can’t use my birthday money to buy my ring 🙁
I don’t have any advice, I just wanted to commiserate with you. I hope that when it does happen, it is everything you want it to be 🙂
Post # 7
Thank you, and I hope it happens soon for you too!
That’s so true, I’m lucky he doesn’t get visually irritated when I say something but I’m sure the rushing isn’t fun for him… and maybe I’ll just get a band of some sort as a placement holder??
I know what you mean, I have all the plans laid out but don’t want to put a deposit on anything until I have my ring!
Great advice. I should cherish the excitement… because hopefully it won’t last long haha. Just kidding, I really should take advantage of this time.
Update: He agreed that he can use the money he “borrowed” from me to buy the ring, and wait to pay me back…. That way he will have time to actually surprise me. I also gave him a choice between my original ring and another one I designed on moissanite co to look like Blake Lively’s ring (kind of). It’s perfect because I’ve been drooling over both Blake Livelys oval and the round ring I originally picked for a long time…. this way I can still be surprised by what the ring looks like! Hopefully I will be posting a picture of the ring within the next two months…. but you never know!
Post # 8
I’m super impatient about getting my ring too! Money troubles just keep coming up and it gets put on the back burner. I’m doing my best to chill out, but it’s hard! I just focus on wedding details instead. I mean it’s gonna happen eventually. Lol. Hope you get your rock!
Post # 9
You are spot on! I feel like a greedy child… but I WANT THE RING! I want everything that comes with the ring, and I want it NOW.
Post # 10
Blake Lively’s ring = DROOL. I am awaiting an oval after much debate over oval vs. round. Can’t wait to see your bling!!
Post # 11
I feel the same way, I’m so antsy for my ring! It’s in my house, and has been here for weeks, and it’s driving me crazy!!
@Futurecoacheswife I’m in a similar situation with my SO, because he’s in grad school and I’m completely financially stable. He paid for the ring because we ordered moissanite so it wasn’t too expensive, but I am extremely eager to get engaged because I just want to officially reach the level that I feel like we’ve been at for quite some time. We live together, have a dog, pay our own bills, and have been together 2.5 years. Once we get engaged I will be taking on the brunt of the bills, just so that he doesn’t have to take out more loans (he’s a guy so it was really hard to convince him to put his pride away and let me help), and so when I got my christmas bonus, I was thinking “I want to help pay off his loans with this!” but since we’re not engaged (and I agree with our families that it’s stupid for me to give him a lot of money without an official commitment first)… it’s just sitting in my bank account driving me crazy. With my luck, I’ll take that bonus and invest it, and then he’ll propose the next day and I’ll be like GREAT, I COULDV’E HELPED YOU WITH SCHOOL BUT YOU WAITED TOO LONG, YOU BUTTHEAD!
Post # 12
We’ve been married a year and I still don’t have my ring. I’m ‘patiently’ waiting but when it’s just me making the effort to put money towards it, it’s becoming a little daunting. Hopefully I’m not waiting too much longer. =(
Post # 12
Did you get your ring yet? I am wondering because that style in rose gold is one I’m debating. I would LOVE to see pictures or a video 🙂