(Closed) Tired of waiting! Starting to HATE my boyfriend and thinking of breaking up!!

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 92
Member
7439 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

TO @theone99:  you said,

@madbee22:  The moderators  deleted our comments because you flagged them. 

For the record… it wasn’t necessarily the OP… ANYONE can use “the Flag” and it happens.  And it sucks sometimes, I agree.  I too have been on the receiving end of this “censorship” at times.

 

 

Post # 93
Member
1076 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

“I remained loyal. HUGE compromise!!!!”

What the actual fuck?! If you think remaining loyal to someone you’re supposed to love is a huge compromise, you’re NOT ready to be married. I honestly can not believe that you would even consider marrying someone when you think not going out and banging other people is some sort of huge sacrifice.

It’s been 2 years, in which time you’ve left him, dated and then crawled back to him. Two years is a pretty short amount of time, especially right after going through a divorce. Not only is this a really short amount of time to expect a recently divorced man to propose, but you both have FAMILIES! He is probably not only worried about you being the ‘right one’ for him, but also worried about how your families will mesh together (which is entirely reasonable).

I can understand from your updates why you feel it is important to live together (finances, and you’re right in the fact that he and his children should not be sleeping over, on the couch, every night if he is unwilling to move in with you). Have you asked him about moving in together? I personally wouldn’t like his children being uprooted every night to sleep on my couch all because he doesn’t feel like moving in. Either he wants to or he doesn’t, and if he doesn’t then he shouldn’t be doing that.

As far as a proposal goes though, I think you need to chill for a bit. It’s only been a relatively short amount of time, he’s not ready and there is no rush. If you feel like he’s stringing you along and will never make a commitment, leave. If you trust him to marry you when he’s ready,  then stay and calm down about it.

Post # 95
Member
105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

In your “analogy” on the last page, you compared yourself to a commodity, and your relationship with a business transaction.

I think it’s time to leave. Unlike the other Bees, none of your updates have reassured me that you should be in this relationship.

Post # 96
Hostess
2253 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Hey ladies! I think this thread has run its course, so I’m gonna go ahead and close it. Have a great night!

 

Post # 96
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20 posts
Newbee

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madbee22:  Madbee22, how have things gone?  I am in the same situation and I’m pissed and feeling out of my mind like you were.  I would love to talk to you if possible.  Jackie

Post # 97
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Newbee

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madbee22:  Madbee22, how have things gone?  I am in the same situation and I’m pissed and feeling out of my mind like you were.  I would love to talk to you if possible.  Jackie

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soinlove79:  Why are guys such cowardly wimps who won’t honor their women?  I think there should be a time limit on how long someone can be engaged.  Otherwise you’re just playing f***** games with that other person’s life.  and THAT SUCKS.  It’s not right.

Post # 98
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Newbee

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madbee22:  Madbee22, how have things gone?  I am in the same situation and I’m pissed and feeling out of my mind like you were.  I would love to talk to you if possible.  Jackie

 

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Post # 99
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Newbee

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jackie376:    Btw, you can contact me at jackie376atyahoo.com

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