Post # 1
So I’m seeing the bf this weekend and I thought I would be getting a proposal but since we have been going through some rough times I doubt it. We are in a LDR so I told him last night that I won’t talk to him about marriage or engagement anymore, but I can’t promise that I will still be around in 3 months if we don’t move this relationship forward. So sick of waiting! He seemed satisfied with that comment, so we will see. No expectations as of now!
Post # 3
oh dear. Good luck, hope it turns out for the best!
Post # 4
LDR’s are SO hard. I’m not in one now but I was in one before and it puts unbelievable strain on a relationship. So…you’re a trooper. How long have you been together?
I think it’s okay to tell a man about your plans/hopes/expectations as long as it’s in a calm, this-is-what-I-want-for-my-future way rather than as a threat. Not that I don’t understand getting upset about it!
Post # 5
I COMPLETELY understand!!! I know its hard sweetie.. Im there right now too. Just try and think of it this way, even though the distance is hard now… you get to spend the REST OF YOUR LIVES together! Try and focus on the end result instead of the distance. It really has helped me cope with it (My SO lives in Pittsburgh and Im in Atlanta).
Post # 6
My SO just told me last night “the worst thing you can do to a guy is nag and keep bringing it up” Easier said than done when you’re the one waiting! I’ve been asking myself lately if this man isn’t ready to marry me,do I want to marry him?
Post # 7
I’m super tired of it too… I hate feeling like our relationship is at a stand still!
I am so ready to move on to the next step! In my head I can give a few reasons why now is not the best time (finances, crazy work schedules, he hasn’t even met my parents yet, he hasn’t even been divorced a full year yet, I haven’t been “unengaged” for a full year yet etc etc.)… But that really doesn’t help, when you know it’s right you know!
Post # 8
Thanks for the support girls.
@mngf we have been together for 2.5 years and it has always been long distance (it was a 1.5 hour drive the first 2 years and now its about a 2 hour flight). =(
@TheRen: Will you be moving to be with your SO or will he be moving to you? Whats the plan?
Post # 9
I hope that things work out for you. Also, I hope that the way you told him was calmly and not in an ultimatum sort of way. By backing a guy into a corner telling him that you are going to leave, really puts the pressure on him and might make him propose for the wrong reasons. I hope that doesn’t happen to you though.
Post # 10
@Jewel.. More than likely I will be moving up there (Until we have kids and then I want to come back down here). I told him I wanted to go ahead and decide and he said “that takes the fun out of engagement”.. I know he wants to get married next year.. and he is getting as tired as I am of the distance. I have decided to stop talking about marriage with him all together unless he brings it up. My mom (who is my best friend other than my SO) and I have been talking about plans alot and what I want to do, so that keeps me sane so I dont always feel the need to bring it up to my SO and when I do have a need, I come here and talk about it. I figure even though waiting is very hard, I get to spend the rest of my life with him, so although its soo difficult now the end result will be well worth it.
Post # 11
I hear you, Jewel! I was with my SO for 1 year before we were separated by school, so we did the LDR thing for two more years and now we’ve been back in the same city for another 2 years. So 5 not-always-easy years all together and I’m sick of waiting too! I think the worst part is just not knowing when it will be – for me at least. I’m one of those people that tries to plan my life out years ahead of time so I would like to know when I’m going to get to plan a wedding in there too, thank you very much! Good luck with the waiting, and hey, you’ve always got the ‘bee to vent to! : )
Post # 13
Hang in there Jewel..Im right there with ya…SOOO sick to DEATH OF WAITINGGG!!
Post # 14
I can totally relate. I’m also in a LDR, and as much as I love my BF, I’m also getting really sick of waiting for a proposal. I just wish it would hurry up and happen already. The longer it takes to happen, the more I’m starting to get nervous wondering if it’s EVER going to happen! My BF makes it sound like we definitely will get engaged and married. However, I can’t help but worry that if he really was totally sure about that, he probably would have asked me already. Anyone else ever worry about that?
Good luck to you Jewel!