lredfern6032: I’m not sure what you expect out of your post (or the previous one) since you seem to deflect on everything that the posters have mentioned. I echo the previous posters in that you should self-reflect more. Saying that you and your Fiance haven’t done anything wrong isn’t self-reflection. No one is 100% innocent. Don’t get me wrong, I think everyone involved is not being an adult about the situation.
People have different priorities in their lives, and when something unexpected comes up, such as a new job opportunity, upcoming pregnancy, financial constraints, etc. then it’s their prerogative to prioritize it over your wedding.
It seems everyone has an excuse to not be in your wedding. And some of the excuses are valid; however, they’re not valid reasons for ignoring you considering they are/were in the wedding. They’re just using it as an excuse to 1) not be in the wedding and 2) to end the friendship. If almost everyone is using excuses to ignore you and your Fiance, then I think you two are a huge part of the problem.
Your wedding is important to you, your Fiance, and your families. It’s not necessarily important to anyone else. If your drama is causing stress in your circle of friends’ lives, then they are probably thinking that it’s best to not be in your life. I can tell you now that if you had a tight-knit circle and an affair occurred b/t your Fiance and someone else within that circle, then yes, it will cause a huge amount of drama that no one wants to deal with. People will pick sides and unfortunately, it is causing you a lot of problems before the wedding.
In addition, you make it seem as if the people in your wedding party are props. What are the costs of being in the wedding? Maybe it started off as being too much, which caused people to drop out. And honestly, if a bride told me that I’m going to have to pay for the reprinting of the ceremony programs (if I drop out), I’d tell her to f*ck off and would drop out in a second. You also can’t legally force me to pay for it either unless there was some signed agreement.
Stop adding more people to your wedding party. At the rate you are going, there’s no point in continuously reprinting the ceremony programs. I don’t even know why you would do it so far in advance either. Just exclude the names of people in your wedding party in the program itself if you are having so many issues retaining your wedding party.
Enjoy the presence of those who are attending the wedding and move on. If people are still ignoring you, just send them a polite text stating that due to the circumstances, you are assuming he/she is no longer in the wedding party and will no longer be attending the wedding.