(Closed) Title for Divorced but kept last name

posted 8 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Ms. (that’s how we address my Mother-In-Law….been divorced 20+ years)

Post # 4
1556 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

The “correct” (i.e., traditional) way is Mrs. Herfirst Exhusband’slast.  So if her name is Jane Doe (with Doe being the name of her ex-husband), it would be Mrs. Jane Doe.  Mrs. John Doe would be his current wife. 

How you should address the invitation is a different question.  I’d lean toward Ms., just because when I was divorced and had my ex-husband’s last name, I didn’t like using Mrs.  The truly “correct” answer is to ask her (or a friend or family member) how she’d like to be addressed.

EDIT:  Just never do what I once did — addressed an envelope to an older widowed lady as Mrs. Jane Doe.  I later learned she was not happy because it implied she and her husband had divorced.  She wanted to keep the traditional title of Mrs. John Doe…and he had been dead nearly 20 years. 

Post # 5
2463 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

ms. is always correct, no matter the marital situation

Post # 6
13099 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Etiquette of formal titles / salutations would tell you to address her as Mrs. Herfirst Exhusband’slast.

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