TMI ALERT: Even For The Intimacy Forum!

posted 7 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

That sounds horrible! So sorry you have to deal with something like that. I’ve never heard of anything like that though. It sounds like your doctor isn’t really clear on what’s going on- have you tried other doctors? Maybe someone else would have a better idea what the problem is and recommend better courses of action for you?

It sounds like you’re doing the right things to deal with it, but one thing I would suggest is taking a biotin supplement daily. It’s just a form of B vitamin that helps with hair, skin, and nail growth. I have a bad habit of biting my lips, and I noticed when I started taking the biotin that my lips heal up WAY faster after I bit them. Maybe this would help the skin and tissue down there to heal up at a faster rate?

Sorry I don’t have much advice… I hope you can find a good solution for this and that you can enjoy your visit in October!

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

That should not be happening and you should not be satisfied with that response from your doctor. Go see a gynecologist for a second opinion.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@julies1949: Agreed. Sounds serious and NOT fun. Go to the gyno before you start hating sex more than anything!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Oneeleven: Bahaha I love your bluntness. But please, do get a second opinion so you’re sure everything is okay down there!

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper

1 – how many doctors have you talked to about this? i.e. have you gotten a second opinion?

2 – is there, like, a surgery you can have? I know they do cosmetic vaginal tightenings…surely someone could, uh, enlarge your vaginal opening, couldn’t they?

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

So wait what is a taint?

Isn’t there a surgery you can have to make it a little bit wider?

Thank you for being honest, I’m sure you are not the only one!

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Okay thanks, I was trying to work up a visual for where you are taring and that makes sense.

If your GYNOS aren’t taking it serious or understanding what their recommendations implicate, I would see a Plastic Surgeon about Vaginoplasty- Im pretty sure sensation will not be effected.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper

@Oneeleven: would minor loss of sensation be worse than what you’re living with now? I mean, it’s not like you’re considering having your clitoris cauterized!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

It sounds like you have posterior fourchette pain (the back part of the vaginal opening) that could be relieved by surgery, and possibly helped by other treatments as well.  Obviously you would need to speak with a gynecologist in person, but it really sounds like this should be treatable.  I would go to an ob/gyn department at a university hospital, because they tend to be more knowledgable about rare conditions and surgical procedures.

There is truly no reason why you should have to keep suffering with this.  Good luck.

ETA as far as loss of sensation, that’s not a particularly sensual area anyway, so I wouldn’t be too worried about that if they can do surgery.  But there are surgeries done all the time to open up the hymenal ring in women where it’s too small, and while that’s not your problem, I feel like it should be a similar concept.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@ddw: AHHHHHHHHH! Cautorized clit – it hurts to think about!!!!!!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

@Oneeleven: I’ve had the same problem but it has only happened in the last few years. I am 24. I have talked to my gyno about it, but they didn’t seem too concerned. My tear is actually closer to the anal region, but it has hurt in my vaginal region too. We have “rough” sex, but like you mentioned, he’s not Ron Jeremy and we don’t have like crazy sex where I would be injured. We use lube and everything. Sex hurts only occasionally on random days and then other days it is fine, not sure why. I have noticed that certain position trigger the tearing/pain so we try to steer clear of those. I am sorry you are having this problem, I know it isn’t fun. Wish I could fix it!

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