- 7 years ago
Okay Bees. I figured with the amount of honesty that seems to go on in the Intimacy thread in general I might get some insight on this.
I have a problem with well… my vagina. Or rather the outside of it. When I have sex I *always* tear a bit on the outside, on the edge most close to my ‘taint’. It tears so deep that it takes weeks/a month to heal and if I keep having sex in the meantime, it never really does until next time Fiance goes away on business.
It is a tear that is about 3-4 mm in length and is all the way through that little part of my anatomy. It bleeds and is so painful I constantly use antibacterial spray (Bactine) as well as antibacterial cream with a numbing agent added to survive.
If I attempt to have sex while its still ripped after foreplay I don’t really feel it because of the adrenaline I guess, but after? I feel like I want to die.
Fiance is aware and desperately doens’t want to hurt me but we can’t wait that long to have sex inbetween. We are very sexual people and don’t want to, nor are disciplined enough to do it time after time.
This has been a life long issue ever since my first serious sexual partner when I was 21 (I’m 40)
I have seen a DR about it and they just tell me to let it heal and that eventually it will stop ripping, to avoid certain positions, use lube, etc. but none of that helps. They also mentioned it might heal in the ‘ripped’ position and scar over but in my sexually active years, that has yet to happen.
I will add that my Fiance is larger than adverage but not Ron Jeremy like, and this problem occurs even with smaller BFs Ive been with.
It may not happen from one time of intercourse but usually if we have been sexually active for a couple of days running or a couple of times over a day.
Have any of you had an issue like this? Do you have any idea what I can do longer term?
sorry if I’ve raised an icky topic. It is just on my mind as I am fully healed as Fiance is in Afghanistan right now but we get to meet for a 3 week vacation in Thailand for the month of October and I am pretty scared of the beating my poor lady bits are going to take. lol