Post # 1
This is probably Too Much Information but whatever, it’s an annonymous board and there is no shame in my game so here goes:
Wedding is in a week. I am one big ‘ole bag ‘o nerves over here. I can barely eat or sleep, and my stomach has been in knots. I have bad anxiety issues, and with that comes the lovely medical ailment known as IBS. Seriously, I have been going to the bathroom nonstop for the past few days. So much so that I have lost about 5 pounds in like 2 days.
I am DEATHLY afraid that I will have this little “issue” on the wedding day and my IBS will rear its ugly head in response to the anxiety and stress of the day. The last thing I need on top of everything else is to have an “oh crap I have to crap” moment at the altar.
Anyone else go through this or have this problem? Anyone have any tips or meds to suggest?
Post # 3
I have IBS and I know how anxiety triggers it. I used to go for acupuncture all the time for it and it helped but we’re overseas and I’ve yet to find someone here I trust.
Don’t eat any of your trigger foods. More carbs is what I usually do. I also don’t like eating out b/c it upsets my tummy. Drink plenty of water. And def. take some immodium the day before or day of. I did b/c it usually clogs me up for a couple of days. I had no problems either.
Also the heat affects me so I have to stay “cool” or it’s not fun.
Post # 4
Oh god, I am so so sorry this is going on. I get this as well and veer between totally clogged to constantly going.
The advice above seems pretty good-I might try that if I face this close to mine as well.
Hope you feel better soon and happy wedding week!
Post # 5
Ugh, yes I have Crohn’s so I understand.
Try to stay away from trigger foods and pop some immodium. If i told my GI the immodium wasn’t working and I was taking the max dose suggested on the box, he somtimes prescribed some sort of prescription strength immodium type thing. Doesn’t hurt to ask or express your concerns with your doctor! (if you see one)
Post # 6
I suffer from IBS and it definitely flares when I’m under any kind of pressure or stress. I take Imodium when I start to feel that ol’ familiar feeling. They have quick-dissolve caps now that melt in the mouth. Basically….if I feel like I’m about to have an episode, I take a quick-dissolve as well as a regular one to follow. I find that about 80% of the time this heads the issue off completely…or at least sets it back a few hours. My specialist said that it’s safe to take regularly (like once or twice a day), and I find I don’t have problems with then being constipated for days afterwards (like I get when I take Pepto) – usually by the next morning I’m back to normal.
The only other advise I can give you is try to avoid the triggers: alcohol, caffeine, raw fruits/veggies, anything high-acid (OJ KILLS me!), dairy, and high-salt/high-fat foods. We’re all different in this area though, so you should know what your specific triggers are.
I’m terrified about this very problem on my wedding day, but I’d feel comfortable having my mom (and only my mom) in the bathroom with me holding my dress while I “went”. You could also have one of your BM’s stand guard outside of the bathroom, in front of the door, so if it’s a many-stalled room noone else can come in there. I also plan on taking 2 preventative Imodiums the morning of the wedding, and then another 1 with the dinner. If I DO get bunged up for 3 days after I don’t care, as long as I don’t have a ‘Bridesmaids’ moment walking up the aisle!
Good luck! – From a fellow IBS sufferer
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
I have struggled with IBS for years, currently I take a medicine called Levbid every 12 hours which helps to control some of my symptoms and it’s allowed me to at least have a normal life most of the time.
But, in times of extreme stress (Hello walking down the aisle!!!) I still have a lot of issues. For this I turn to Immodium– I take double or something even triple the dose. It’s none habit forming, so you wont do any lasting damage– but it will keep things under control in the short term. A double dose usually takes me between 24-48 hours to process so don’t be concerned if you don’t have a bowel movement for a day or two, this is normal.
I definitely agree with the advice to stay away from trigger foods– especially dairy and alcohol (especailly at your rehearsal dinner!) this will help minimize the likelihood of problems, and stay plenty hydrated.
My plan is to take 1 dose right before bed the night before, another in the morning, and to have an extra dose on-hand to take if my stomach feels like it’s not going to cooperate. It takes about 15-20 minutes to kick in, so I always take it at the very FIRST sign of stomach issues.
Post # 8
@Legallyblondiebride: If all of the above ideas fail, have a back up, like Depends, just in case of an accident.
Those darn tummy issues. I feel your pain.
Post # 9
Definitely try Immodium. One of my best friends has IBS and if it’s an important day or she doesn’t want to risk an attack when she goes out, she always takes 2 pills as a precautionary measure, and then takes additional doses of one pill per dose with meals. Works like a charm for her!
Post # 10
So it seems many of us have IBS but I’ve yet to meet one IRL except my sister. It completely sucks especially overseas where bathrooms aren’t easy to find and you usually pay to use them. Plus, planning every outing based on when you eat and how long until you find a bathroom isn’t the best.
I think it gets easier with time but I’m jealous of how Darling Husband can eat that big piece of chocolate cake w/ ice cream after dinner and I have to sit and watch for fear of it running through me.
Post # 11
Is there any way you can get into your primary MD and get an ativan or two? An anxiolytic will not only calm your nerves, but might therefore calm your bowels in response to your stress.
Post # 12
@texasbee: I think it’s because for a lot of people it’s just so darn embarrassing that they’d rather not discuss it and would rather try to control it in private. I used to be that way, until I met a girl who had it, and I suddenly had someone to talk to about it with. I was at the point where other than work I didn’t really want to leave the house because I was so anxious about having episodes in public. Now I’m just honest with people. If we go out and someone offers me icecream and I say no, and they push and ask why not….I just say “I have IBS, and I’m lactose intolerant. It’s not worth it!”. Some people ask what it is, and then when you say Irritable Bowel Syndrome they just change the subject. Mostly they don’t ask though. I think it’s awesome to talk about it though, because since I started doing that I’ve found out some other people I know were also suffering in silence. Mine only started about 2 years ago, about 2 weeks after I quit smoking. My doctor said that’s actually quite typical – that your whole body goes into withdrawal and it can sometimes kickstart issues that have been lurking somewhere near the surface. Who knew!?!
Post # 13
Other than avoiding your triggers and taking imodium my best suggestion is to relax. Try to delegate out as many tasks as you can so that you aren’t running around. Also, pick things that you can focus on that will help you stay calm.
I have IBS and I was terrified that it would be an issue, oddly enough the exact opposite happend. I was plugged up for a few days after the wedding!
Post # 14
Immodium or Pepto caplets if you get waves of nausea like me, and Rescue Remedy drops. They are wonderful for helping to cut the anxiety!!!! I find for me, just the “insurance” of having pepto in my purse or taking a half of one “just in case” really helps to calm me down.
Post # 15
Do you take a fiber supplement? I have IBS, although, it sounds like it isn’t as bad as some of you, but the biggest thing that has helped me is taking Citracel daily. I prefer the powder to the pills, and I don’t like any others (Metamusil and Benefiber both made me super gassy, not cool). It may be a little late with the weddng a week away, but I absolutely recommend it anyway. I am not exagerrating that it has changed my life.
You may need to start with, like, half a dose for a couple of days to you don’t get gassy from all the extra fiber.
Post # 16
@Legallyblondiebride: Start working a non-soluble fiber supplement, such as Benefiber, into your everyday dietary routine. Don’t take a lot at once, just gradually increase the dosage.
I HIGHLY recommend following the tips on this website by Heather Van Vorous (sp?): http://www.helpforibs.com/ She has IBS herself (used to pass out from the pain, even) and basically came up with a lot of ways to manage it, she also keeps up on the research about it so she knows her stuff. She also sells some great remedies, such as peppermint oil capsules that will calm your digestic tract during attacks. You can also find most of these products on Amazon or at local healthfood stores if you’re not comfortable buying through that website or you want better shipping options.
Some of the other tips include: avoiding triggers, eating foods in different orders (ex. eat your salad after the meal instead of before), get enough sleep.
Heather has also written books on the subject. One thing you might find helpful is a very difficult-to-follow but IBS-friendly diet that she details on her website and in her books. I don’t really follow the guidelines as well as I should, but you may find it’s worth it to follow them to get through your wedding day.
I swear that I don’t work for this lady, her books and website have just helped me a LOT. When I was first diagnosed as a teenager, my doctor barely told me anything about IBS or how to manage it. My mom found her books and, thanks to the guidelines in them, now my symptoms are a lot more manageable.