(Closed) TMI! Do you tell your husband you're "faking" it?

posted 7 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: Do you tell your husband you 'fake' it?
    Yes, I've told him/I do tell him because I want to be 100% honest with him in terms of our intimacy : (40 votes)
    14 %
    No, I don't tell him because I don't want him to feel embarrassed and am okay with faking : (117 votes)
    42 %
    Other (pls explain!) : (120 votes)
    43 %
  • Post # 63
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    3052 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    I faked one time with an ex and I wished immediately that I hadn’t. It was a lose-win situation where I lost and my ex got a big head. Awful. Never faked with anyone else, I learned my lessen quickly!

    Post # 64
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    789 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @poppygirl16:  I think you’re cheating both of you out of more than orgasms. You’re not allowing the truest intimacy…maybe you’re either not turned on by him or you can’t give in to it. Orgasm is all about letting go and there arwe lots of ways to get there with a partner. If he loves oral you can train him to do it the way you need. If you can get yourself off when alone, you can do that while you’re having sex with him. I won’t say I’ve never faked it, but it’s been rare and only with someone I DIDN’T care about. I’d never lie to my husband about anything in our sex life.

    Post # 65
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    887 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I’ve faked with an ex because I was bored and just wanted it to be over. Needless to say, we didn’t last very long as a couple. 

    I have never faked with Darling Husband. I have definitely exaggerated my excitment but that is more as a guide/encouragement to let him know he is going in the right direction. As many PP have said, if it’s not going to happen that particular time, I let him know. He also knows that I don’t have to “finish” to enjoy sex/intimacy. Sometimes I even enjoy a heavy duty makeout session more than the actual deed (like when I’m feeling super lazy). 

    Post # 66
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    3075 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

    I put other as well simply because I’ve never faked it ๐Ÿ˜›

    But might as well admit the truth so you wont have to keep faking.

    Post # 67
    Member
    1002 posts
    Bumble bee

    No, because I have never faked an orgasm with my current SO.  I did with previous partners, and I saw that it was damaging to the relationship.  I will not do it now.  If I don’t orgasm, I don’t orgasm.  If I do, I do.  End of story.

    Post # 68
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    556 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I sometimes fake it, just because it really turns him on and he feels more masculine because of it ๐Ÿ˜› But I don’t always fake it, I mostly don’t fake them ๐Ÿ™‚

    I don’t tell him this, because I don’t think it’s a big deal, since he can me have big “Os” (real ones).  

    Post # 69
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    231 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    OP, I hope you have come to a decision about what you are going to do, any update?

    @MidwestMouse:  oral does nothing for me either, regardless of how many internet articles there are telling me my Darling Husband is doing it wrong or Im paranoid about the smell or feel “dirty”It honestly just does nothing for me. Have tried it a hundred times,and  I have tried it with previous partners, but it just doesnt float my boat, and I dont see it as a problem that needs to be “fixed”

    Post # 70
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    2491 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I’ve faked. Sometimes it’s just not doing it for me or I’m tired or I just can’t get there. I’ve never told him I’ve faked- it would really hurt his feelings and self-esteem. But I usually do orgasm… multiple times ๐Ÿ˜‰

     

    Post # 72
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    3194 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    i answered ‘other’ because i don’t fake it. if i’m not horny, but he wants to have sex, i’m just honest with him and i spend tons of attention on him. it usually ends up getting me turned on anyway, and i never fake getting off or getting turned on.

    Post # 73
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    738 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I guess I’m just lucky, I’ve never had to fake it with Fiance. I’ve faked it plenty of times in the past though and never said a peep! 

    Post # 74
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    488 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I’ve never faked in my life. An orgasm isn’t the only component to sex. Just because I don’t climax doesn’t mean the whole thing doesn’t feel good. If I can’t get there (which is rare anyway) then I just let him know otherwise he would keep going and going.  Out of all the things to lie to him about, our sex life would be one of the dead last. Intimacy is extremely important to me.

    Post # 75
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    94 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    With my other boyfriends I did fake, and had the most unfulfilling sex on the planet. lol. With my Fiance, I decided, “why not actually tell him what I like, and experiment?” oh boy I’m glad he did. Sorry if Too Much Information, but I get the big O with his mouth, when he’s in me, with his hands…haha. I’m glad I took the time to “teach”

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