Post # 1
I can’t orgasm…at all. Its like I get into sex or mastrabation, start to feel really good, and then it just stops. There’s no reason for this, it just happens. I’m faily goal oriented, and I’ve actaully TRIED to finish by myself many times. I’ve read books about it, tried toys, shower heads, fingers etc. I’m fairly open about sexuality. This is to the point I’ve told my rather suppressed best friend that she really should try mastrabation. She did and liked it ;). However, nothing can get me off. When I mastrabate, I don’t focus on finishing, just on trying to feel good. I’ve read that its easier to reach orgasm by yourself the first time, rather than with a partner.
Weirdly, I’ve come closest to finishing when I’m with my SO, but even then I always plateau. If he still wants to go and I’m done, I’m pretty much bored throughout the rest of the session (although I love him and want him to finish so, of course, I try to stay focused on his needs.)
I always thought when I found the one and got really comfortable with him, it might just happen naturally. So far, no dice. I know it disappoints him a little that I can’t finish. He tries new things to spice it up, but nothing works on me. I’m in my late 20s and just figured this would happen by now.
Does anyone have any advice? Can anyone commissorate? Sometimes I feel super frustrated by this whole situation.
Post # 3
How about oral? Have you tried being on top?
Post # 4
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Funny, that’s how I am (except the whole open about sexuality part) but I think for two orthree years I could never finish… now I do but only if I’m on top. I don’t know why that seems to be only thing that works and though I try other positions that’s the one I always goo back to 😛
The first time I tried it just to try it, didn’t think I’d actually finish though. But within a few tries, I got it Lol. It took me by surprise , I thought it’d feel good but not like that. Like my friend said, when you have one you’ll know. Though after that it took me a while to get the hang of it, I’d finish on occasion but it wasn’t expected. Over time I learned what workedand what didn’t and now I get it every time ha ha.
Though for other positions I don’t know either ;-(
Post # 5
@lawyerchick13: I have the exact same problem. There’s one position that gets me going, but then it’s just like…. nope.
Post # 6
have you tried having a few drinks before hand? I don’t have the same issue when masterbating but I’ve noticed that if I’ve had a few before he goes down, I can orgasm much easier. I wonder if this may help? YOu don’t want to be drunk, just maybe a little buzzed to let loose?
Post # 7
@lia22: Haha, yes I actually sometimes try to get a little buzzed before doing the deed. One of my biggest problems is that when something feels really good, I think, ‘wow this feels good!’ and start thinking which immediately results in platau. If i’m buzzed or even beyond buzzed, I’m stupider and less likely to think and ruin the moment.
@dancergirl: I’ve also tried being on top and oral… Generally, I prefer missionary to any other position. It feels the best…
Post # 8
@lawyerchick13: I would say try being on top more. That’s what works best for me because of the angle and friction
Post # 9
@lawyerchick13: the easiest way for me to orgasm is missionary, when I wrap my legs around him and grind up when he pushes in. Have you tried that?
Post # 10
Are you on any medications? I ask, because some definitely inhibit orgasm.
Post # 11
Easiest for me is reverse cowgirl, he can support you if you lean back, and your hands are free to help you finish!