Post # 1
I am just asking this out of pure curiousity…but those of you who got out of long-term relationships, was it difficult (emotionally,physically whatever) having sex with a new person afterwards…whether it be a new relationship, one-night stand, casual fling whatever?
Post # 2
I wouldn’t say it was difficult, but it was odd at first. I was with my ex for almost 16 years. After we separated, it felt strange to kiss other people and be physically intimate, but it wasn’t difficult for me. After a while, it wasn’t odd anymore.
Post # 3
sallyloves90 : yes, very weird. I had a monogamous, 25 yr marriage since I was 17.
It would have been easy to stay scared and not pursue intimacy. knew I would have to get over it to allow me to be sexually healthy.
I made sure my first sexual experiences post-divorce were with someone I knew a long time, and that I trusted and would respect me. We had a 4 month relationship that didn’t progress.
It did allow me to get over my fears.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2018 - City, State
It’s definitely different. I wouldn’t say difficult, but it’s new. Every time I have sex with a new person, there’s a mixture of excitement and “Oh shit, how is this going to go!?”-type anxiety floating around in my head. Just be kind to yourself and find a partner who’s patient. Do your best to live in the moment instead of comparing (favorably or unfavorably) to your previous partner(s).
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2018 - Fremont, CA
It was not difficult, but it was SO DIFFERENT! Super unfamiliar territory.
My ex and I were together for 11 years. My husband and I have been together for close to three years now, and I still marvel at the differences sometimes, since they were all for the better. \o/
Post # 6
lifetimegoals : same here! I was nervous about it but it was like riding a bike and so amazing to have good sex again!! I had forgotten what I had been missing. I was with my ex husband for 10 years and sex was pretty terrible. Everything with my current boyfriend is better – chemistry, foreplay “size”.. 😉
Post # 7
Maybe a bit different, but it was also so freeing and amazing to be with new men.
my exH was so insecure and anything beyond missionary was not allowed. So I welcomed strange.
Post # 8
I was in an LTR before I met my Fi. I thought it would be weird but it wasn’t at all! But my ex was a total psycho so that probably helped.