TMI … SEX!

posted 5 months ago in Married Life
Post # 2
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Stop giving him oral.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Respect that he has preferences too and talk to him like an adult.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

More information is needed here…

Post # 5
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Helper bee

Have you ever asked him to do it? Does he just refuse? Did he do it before you were together? Do you get off other ways? Does he take time for foreplay, or just go right into blow jobs or sex?

Post # 6
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Helper bee

I would definitely ask if there is a issue. I understand personal preferences, but in relationships it’s a GIVE and take too. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer's Beach, Grand Cayman

Have you asked why?

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

FI didn’t start doing it until after a few years. Finally I looked at him and told me that I don’t orgasm through sex and he took it from there. 

Post # 9
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Newbee

Have you explicitly asked him to do so? What does he say if/when you do?

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - Cottage

maevat :  if that is a dealbreaker… show him the door? Or discuss you having an open marriave where you are allowed to get eaten by others? I see no other solution. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

mrss2b2017 :  HAHA would love to be a fly on the wall during this conversation…

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Why won’t he? Has he done it with others? Do you do it for him? What is the story?

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

maevat :  So less than once a year you’ve brought it up.  Maybe it’s time for another conversation.  Obviously he had a bad experience and he doesn’t like it but I think after four years you can express how much you do like it.  Maybe you can ensure that you practice proper hygiene and he’ll be more willing.  Like ask him to try it right after you get out of the shower, until he’s a little more comfortable with it. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

maevat :  Yup, a relationship should be give and take. What a lame excuse! Not good enough.

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