Post # 1
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Worker bee
I’m 24 and NOT a virgin, but I have decided to not have sex anymore for personal reasons. The next time I have sex I want it to be with my husband. I’m dating this great guy and I think he is a keeper. This question is for people who are or have waited to have sex until marriage or know anyone.
While you guys waited did you take part in any type of sexual activities? If so at what point in the relationship did you do it ( before relationship, bf/gf, long term, engaged, etc) ?
How do you have self control to not jump each others bones every time you see each other?
This post is not to offend anyone!!!
I wish I could get verbal advice and opinions on why you felt your choice was best for your relationship.
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
Also curious about these answers. What you said, @MrsVMT:, “The next time I have sex I want it to be with my husband” seems a lot like how i feel.
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
I didn’t wait to have sex until marriage, but I wish I had. Luckily I have only ever had sex with my husband though, and we were very serious and headed toward engagement by the time we did have sex.
If I could redo the whole thing, I would have saved EVERYTHING for after the wedding. I am Christian and this meant a lot to me, but I let him pressure me into doing more than I wanted to for religious reasons (well, I wanted to, but knew I would feel guilty).
When we have children I will do my VERY best to tell them how sacred sex is, and how everything sexual should wait until after marriage.
Post # 5
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Worker bee
@MrsVMT: Not directly relevant to the topic but weren’t you the one who earlier today posted about being unsure if you want to start dating a man who you are in contact with but have not yet met up with? How do you go from not sure whether you want to meet up with this man to dating “a keeper” in a couple of hours?
Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
@just_deal_with_it: I was wondering the same thing!
OP, I have no advice as far as not having sex goes…but I do wonder: what’s the point in not having sex? Is it about…thinking sex is a sin or something? Because if that kind of pleasure is somehow bad, then I think the other stuff should be seen as “bad” as well. Like, they’re in the same category. If you’re gonna give a blow job or receive oral, you may as well have sex.
Post # 7
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Newbee
I am in the same position. I have met a new guy that I believe is potential. We have been together for about two months and the farthest we went is him touching me. I have decided to wait off and see how the relationship developes. I chose not to have sex because of relegious reasons and so I don’t regret anything. I will wait at least 6 more months to see if I want to sexually go forward.
my my advise is take your time and see how things progress… Or not.
good luck ! To us both 🙂
Post # 8
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Helper bee
- Wedding: May 2014 - Beach
I have never had sex beofre, and I’m waiting until after marriage for personal reasons(religious reasons,wanting to have something we both never did after marriage, we don’t live together so we might as well wait reasons lol). I hav been with my FI for about 5 years now. The first Kiss came very quickly. after 6-9 months of serious relationships we went to the next level which was making out. then oral. After our engagement we had more of sexual activity because one i was drawn to him and two I wanted to see how the sexual cemistrey is between us. For sex I’m still waiting for about 3 more months 🙂
Post # 9
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Helper bee
I slept with FI before we were officially dating and we do it all. the. time. Lol
Post # 10
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Worker bee
@just_deal_with_it: If you must know the last post was posted by a close friend. The post is no longer up I deleted it.
Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Oral sex is way more intimate than vaginal. Not sure how it became the okay sex to have before marriage if it’s a religious thing?
Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
Your friend posted from your account… Interesting.
Post # 13
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Helper bee
@MrsVMT: We did just about anything besides sex. We had sex for the first time about 3 years into our relationship. I was just finishing my second year of college (20years old). I’m glad we waited, but I don’t know how we did it! Lol, me and my DH were both virgins at 20.
Sex was amazing the first time, because we spent so long getting to know each other’s bodies before the big whomp whomp.
Post # 14
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Helper bee
I will never understand when someone says they are not having sex before marriage because of religious reasons,, but yet are having oral sex.. its still sex..if your are giving and receiving orgasams its sex..intercoarse is only one part of sex,, I think people bend the bible to suit themselves and not have guilt..Just my opinion..
