(Closed) TMI!!ADVICE!! What did you really do while waiting to have sex until marriage???

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: What did you REALLY do while waiting??? At what point in relationship did you do it? How often?
    Mutual Stimulation/Fondled (ie fingered jacked off) : (33 votes)
    25 %
    Oral to each other : (27 votes)
    20 %
    Nothing : (13 votes)
    10 %
    Stimulation/Fondled (ie fingered jacked off) ONLY to SO but not receive : (1 votes)
    1 %
    Oral ONLY to SO but not receive : (3 votes)
    2 %
    Before being bf/gf : (8 votes)
    6 %
    When you were bf/gf : (31 votes)
    23 %
    Long term serious relationship 6-9 months : (12 votes)
    9 %
    Long term serious relationship 9-12 months : (4 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    176 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Also curious about these answers. What you said, @MrsVMT:, “The next time I have sex I want it to be with my husband” seems a lot like how i feel.


    Post # 4
    3400 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I didn’t wait to have sex until marriage, but I wish I had. Luckily I have only ever had sex with my husband though, and we were very serious and headed toward engagement by the time we did have sex.

    If I could redo the whole thing, I would have saved EVERYTHING for after the wedding. I am Christian and this meant a lot to me, but I let him pressure me into doing more than I wanted to for religious reasons (well, I wanted to, but knew I would feel guilty).

    When we have children I will do my VERY best to tell them how sacred sex is, and how everything sexual should wait until after marriage.

    Post # 5
    52 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @MrsVMT:  Not directly relevant to the topic but weren’t you the one who earlier today posted about being unsure if you want to start dating a man who you are in contact with but have not yet met up with? How do you go from not sure whether you want to meet up with this man to dating “a keeper” in a couple of hours?

    Post # 6
    9916 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @just_deal_with_it:  I was wondering the same thing!


    OP, I have no advice as far as not having sex goes…but I do wonder: what’s the point in not having sex?  Is it about…thinking sex is a sin or something?  Because if that kind of pleasure is somehow bad, then I think the other stuff should be seen as “bad” as well.  Like, they’re in the same category.  If you’re gonna give a blow job or receive oral, you may as well have sex.  

    Post # 7
    21 posts

    I am in the same position. I have met a new guy that I believe is potential. We have been together for about two months and the farthest we went is him touching me. I have decided to wait off and see how the relationship developes. I chose not to have sex because of relegious reasons and so I don’t regret anything. I will wait at least 6 more months to see if I want to sexually go forward. 


    my my advise is take your time and see how things progress… Or not.



    good luck ! To us both 🙂

    Post # 8
    373 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Beach

    I have never had sex beofre, and I’m waiting until after marriage for personal reasons(religious reasons,wanting to have something we both never did after marriage, we don’t live together so we might as well wait reasons lol). I hav been with my Fiance for about 5 years now. The first Kiss came very quickly. after 6-9 months of serious relationships we went to the next level which was making out. then oral. After our engagement we had more of sexual activity because one i was drawn to him and two I wanted to see how the sexual cemistrey is between us. For sex I’m still waiting for about 3 more months 🙂

    Post # 9
    293 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I slept with Fiance before we were officially dating and we do it all. the. time. Lol

    Post # 11
    9134 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    Oral sex is way more intimate than vaginal. Not sure how it became the okay sex to have before marriage if it’s a religious thing?

    Post # 12
    1891 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    Your friend posted from your account… Interesting. 

    Post # 13
    378 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @MrsVMT:  We did just about anything besides sex.  We had sex for the first time about 3 years into our relationship.  I was just finishing my second year of college (20years old).  I’m glad we waited, but I don’t know how we did it!  Lol, me and my Darling Husband were both virgins at 20.  

    Sex was amazing the first time, because we spent so long getting to know each other’s bodies before the big whomp whomp.  

    Post # 14
    231 posts
    Helper bee

    I will never understand when someone says they are not having sex before marriage because of religious reasons,, but yet are having oral sex.. its still sex..if your are giving and receiving orgasams its sex..intercoarse is only one part of sex,, I think people bend the bible to suit themselves and not have guilt..Just my opinion..

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