(Closed) To all ladies in waiting.. LOL

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

well, since he’s told me he has more than enough for a ring…no.

 

What is the point of this, exactly?

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@MIBEETOWED: Uh… maybe? Most couples discuss the steps that need to be taken before marriage, or mutual goals. Most women won’t wait around in a relationship and think “Maybe he’s trying to save for a ring” and no one ever brings it up.

You can get engaged without a ring too. This is a sore spot for many of the waiting bees.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

I do understand why you’d ask. But, I’ve been lurking on the waiting boards for quite a while and I can promise you that this is rarely the case. Almost every lady on here at some point has posted about how they told their guy they didn’t need a ring, or they didn’t need an expensive stone, or offered him alternate solutions, or offered to pay for it, or offered to help him pay for it. Most of the time they tell him they don’t need a ring. But their guys are the ones that insist they have to get something. I even have to disagree with you comment that they are expensive. There is a plethora of beautiful, inexpensive rings out there. The men are the ones refusing to consider them, even after being offered them as a suggestion.

Again. I do see why that could have crept in your head. But this is certainly not what is happening. These women are open about their desires for their lives and don’t wait around, sitting on their hands, hoping their guy is secretly working on something. They talk about it. AND they typically have been with their guys for years already so the questions are appropriate.

Your post just didn’t seem to be the most appropriate for this forum. It is something that has come up before, but the way you said it makes it sound like these women are ring crazy and they haven’t considered other reasons why they aren’t engaged yet.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2013

In my case, I knew I was waiting because he was saving for the ring. Not to say that waiting was really any easier, but at least I knew why. In fact, I was convinced that there was no way he was saving enough money to propose this year like he said he would. Thank goodness I was totally wrong, and he was saving the whole time, and he surprised me with the proposal.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I rarely read the waiting post but the few I have read are not about bf not being able afford a ring. Like PP have said most of the time bees don’t care for a ring. And I ditto not needing a ring to be engaged. My SO and I were engaged without a ring, we didn’t need a ring to know we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together.I really don’t find the humor in this post nor the point. OP if you could explain your train of thought that would help understand where you are coming from a little better.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I smell bait…

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@claireos:  This! πŸ™‚

 

I understand the question you pose but I have to say that it doesn’t fully fit most of the waitingbees on this board.  I hate the stigma that comes with “waiting.” Like we are all some sort of wedding obsessed, ring obsessed women who’s lives would not be complete with some sort of eye candy on their left ring finger.  It’s not about the money,ring, or even the wedding for a lot of us… it’s about having a marriage with the person we love πŸ™‚

 

Post # 10
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Helper bee

usually when a waiting bee’s SO is saving up for a ring, the bee knows it. in my case, i know he has no money for a ring right now, not even a cheap one (unless we’re talking like vending machine cheap), and even after telling him i’d be fine with just a ringpop, i know he wants to get me real ring. and i know that’s why i’m waiting. that doens’t make it any easier. i’ve always been impatient.

so yes, it has crossed my mind. why do you ask?

Post # 11
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Newbee

i dont wear rings so i know thats not why i am waiting lol

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

He knows if he spends any more than 300 I’m going to make him eat it! Haha. 
I don’t know what he’s waiting on other than for me to get out of my credit debt. But he’s worth the wait! πŸ˜€ 

Post # 13
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Newbee

i agree with hottlips def worth waiting for …. love tht guy πŸ˜€

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

if i didn’t know how much he had in his bank account, then i would probably think this. and i think it is a valid reason as to why some ladies are “waiting”

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MIBEETOWED: I think it was the LOL that threw me off in the title in particular. 

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