Post # 1
Keep your head up. And be strong. But if you want to cry at times, then cry. It never hurts to vent or release your emotions from time to time.
What you are all going through now is a difficult time. No-one, NO-ONE is going to keep a straight head about themselves. So if you ever feel bad about feeling upset, stop that right away. You have every right to feel upset, hurt, betrayed, etc.
Spend time on yourself FOR yourself. You are your own boss. You can do whatever you like. Take a few days off from work if need be. If you’re in college, take a few days break from studying. IF you have exams coming up, throw yourself into those. Trust me when I say it helped me a LOT.
Go out with friends. Spend time with family. And don’t worry – they’ll be understanding. Most parents are better than we realise when it comes to these things. Your friends are your friends for a reason.
And if you feel you can’t talk to them – we’re here. I know if any of you want to PM someone, feel free to PM me. I’ve been single for about a month and a bit now, after a messy break-up with what I realise now was an emotionally abusive ex.
The community here is (for the most part) a very supportive one. Everyone is very kind and will try and help you out how they can.
Most importantly I guess – remember that this is NOT the end. Things happen for a reason. And that one day, you will look back and think about what has happened, and you will think ‘gosh, I can’t believe I was IN that!’
Everything will be sorted out in time. Give yourself time. Your emotions time.
You are strong, beautiful, smart women. And don’t forget that. There is someone else out there for you. Someone who will be great for you. Someone you will completely click with. For now, don’t think too far into the future. Just take each day as it comes.
Post # 3
That was really sweet of you to write that..I really hope it helps someone feel better
Post # 4
Agreed, this is very sweet and very smart advice. I read your posts about your breakup and I’m so glad to see that you’re doing well!
Post # 5
Thank you both very much.
I’m seeing an influx of newly single Bees. And it prompted me to write this. Everyone needs support, regardless of relationship status in my eyes.
Post # 6
That is so nice and wonderful of you. I wish I could have read this a few years ago. I’m sure your words are going to comfort a lot of people on here.
Post # 7
They sure as heck helped to comfort me.
Post # 8
@OrchidsandCandles: exacltyyyyyyyyyyy…after my break up with my ex,,i lsot hope…then i met my husband!!so never let your self down..cry yes.think is the end of life,,no way!
Post # 9
THANK YOU!!!!! It means a lot. I seem to be taking a lot longer than I should over this. It’s been 5 months since my ex fiance and I broke up. He’s moved on, butfor me the hurt is so deep, the amount of times he hurt me so many.
What does PM mean? Is that email?
Post # 10
@fullyalive: It means private message, or write a note on the site to someone.
Post # 11
You ladies are really strong. Keep your head up when the going gets tough. There is a light at the end of the tunnel.
Post # 12
@OrchidsandCandles: Thank you 🙂 My engagement and relationship came to an end last week. Some days I feel like I know I will be okay and other days it feels like the world is crumbling. I think your post is one that I will come back to on those days to help me remember all is not lost 🙂
Post # 13
thanks for the kind words and message. I broke up with my fiance over 8 months ago and it still hurts day to day. Im trying to be good to myself and “do me” for once, but its definately still so hard sometimes. I’ll remember your post on my worst days 🙂
Post # 14
@OrchidsandCandles: If WeddingBee had a “like” button, I’d definitely be using it on this post!
Post # 15
This is such sweet advice – thank u so much for posting! I’m sure it’ll help a lot of ppl.
Post # 16
Newly single for 7 weeks now! Every week gets way better, that’s for certain.
If only I can stop the nagging voice that says I lost something really good, they I’ll definitely be good.