Post # 1
Hi! I am new here, but I have been browsing through the non-diamond engagement ring folder and it made me want to post! My boyfriend and I are only getting engaged sometime next year, but he has already purchased the stone for the ring, mostly because he found the perfect one and didn’t want it to get snapped up. It’s the stone I have always wanted in my ring, a cuprian tourmaline. I’m so excited! I want to know from the gemstone ladies whether they have received any nasty comments about their rings? Here is a picture of the stone:
Post # 3
I’m not familiar with that stone at all, but gosh it’s a gorgeous color!
I have a blue sapphire and I really don’t get negative comments. People ask me why I wanted a sapphire, but that’s about it.
It’s kind of unfair, but I do think I get fewer comments than I have seen from other Bees in part because people assume Fiance could have bought a diamond ring, so I must have chosen a sapphire. That’s true, but it goes to the stereotype that most people only get a non-diamond because they can’t afford a diamond. Clearly you love your stone, so if there is any chance people will assume you only got it due to finances, I would beat them to it and just proudly show it off. Don’t apologize, and never mention money. Just be proud and excited.
Post # 4
Hey!!! i have a natural saphire with two white topaz stones and diamond accents.
=] i think the stone is gorgeous.
it does suck though just because your e ring isnt big and diamond ppl dont think your “really” engaged
Post # 5
Thanks for the replies! I hate how ignorant people can be, especially since some fine colored stones can be far more expensive than diamonds. My sister just got a sapphire engagement ring, (blue sapphire centre stone and two white sapphire sidestones) and she has been getting comments like “Oh, is that a promise ring?”, and “Couldn’t afford a diamond?”. It’s so rude and I know it does get to her, even though she has never wanted a diamond. So that has helped me metally prepare myself.
Post # 6
I had a friend that I hadn’t seen us since our engagement. A couple of nights ago we were out with him and he asked to see the engagement ring. He — not kidding— said, “Oh, pretty. I’d like it better if it was a diamond.”
Post # 7
That’s ridiculous Helen!
I have a sapphire, I have not received any nasty remarks. The only weird one I had was 2 weeks after we got engaged, we saw some married friends of ours and I showed them my ring (they asked!) and she said it was “cute”. It just amused me, it was a weird comment. 🙂
That color is gorgeous!!!! Please post a picture when you get it set, I would love to see it!
Post # 8
I have a blue sapphire. I chose it for a number of reasons, none of them financial. And it is a very good quality sapphire so it was actually about the same price as the diamonds that we considered. I think it is the most gorgeous ring I have seen in my life and absolutely love it. It is the most stunning color blue I’ve ever seen and, best of all, since both my fiance and I are September babies, it is more symbolic to us than a diamond would be. No one has ever said anything snarky, but when people look at my ring they usually just say “that’s nice” or barely acknowledge it, most likely because it isn’t a diamond. It doesn’t really bother me. It really amuses me more than anything and confirms to me that we picked the right ring because instead of feeling sad that people don’t ooh and ah over my ring, I’m baffled that they aren’t stunned by how gorgeous it is!
Post # 9
@namarie: I would love to see a picture!
Post # 10
Um, PRINCESS DIANA had a sapphire e-ring. HELLO!!! This diamond = engagement balogna was a marketing ploy brought on by Debeers and they did a GREAT JOB…I like me some diamonds (lol I shop the pawn shops lol) and my Fiance can easily afford show-stopper diamond, but I just think spending enormous money on something so tiny is stupid.
Post # 11
That’s goregous! That’s my absolute favroite color. It will look amazing no matter what setting you choose.
I chose a ring without a center stone, it’s a diamond and saphire band. I think people assume we couldn’t afford something bigger (which is partly true). I do think people comment on it less because they don’t realize it’s an engament ring, but that’s OK with me because I’m not looking for attention.
Post # 12
That stone is amazing and your ring will be gorgeous!
Some people were confused by my ruby, but not nasty or insulting. I got a lot of “Is it your birthstone?” Because a coloured stone is outside the “norm”, I guess they wanted a reason! Funny thing, my birthstone IS actually a diamond, but I have just always preferred coloured stones. I do like diamonds for the sparkle, and I have lots of litte ones around my ruby, but it’s the ruby that I love love love.
Once they got over it not being a big old diamond solitaire, I got nothing but compliments on it.
If anyone does make a nasty comment, I think you can safely assume that person is an idiot and cross them off as a potential wedding guest.
Post # 13
That is a gorgeous stone! I have a blue sapphire center stone. When I first told my mom (who is very traditional) that we were thinking about going with a non-diamond she asked how people would know I was engaged. Umm, hello, ring on my left ring finger?? And when Fiance sent a picture of the ring to his sister (also VERY traditional), apparently she said something about it being nice, but she would like it better if it was a diamond or something like that.
But after people see it (especially my mom), they definitely love it, and I’ve gotten tons of compliments on it, even from my diamond-loving friends. I think the key is just to wear it proudly and with confidence. When people see how much you love it, they won’t say anything.
Post # 14
I have a natural sapphire stone. I wanted opal… but after realizing how soft they are decided on the sapphire for longevity. I never wanted a diamond, I find them cold. We picked out the ring we did because the color of the sapphire is a little unusual.. it has a slightly green tint to it, and it has an inclusion in the center (OK, it’s technically flawed, but the flaw is the reason I love it! lol). Price wasn’t really a consideration, I have a ring I love wearing and showing off. Comment wise, I’ve heard “I didn’t want a diamond either, but that’s what he bought” to “Oh… that ring is SO you!”
Maybe it’s just the part of the country I’m in? New Mexico seems a bit different like that.
Post # 15
I have a blue sapphire center stone as well. Price did factor into the decision somewhat, as we’re both very frugal and couldn’t justify spending that much money on one ring. We both felt the money would be better put toward the actual wedding itself.
That being said, I LOVE my ring and wouldn’t have opted for the sapphire if I knew I wouldn’t be happy with it.
Most people are very complimentary of my ring. No one has made rude comments about it, at least to my face. The only odd reaction was when a coworkers’ wife asked to see my ring, looked at it, and said nothing. Not one comment. Not even a, “that’s nice.” It was very awkward.
Post # 16
I have a sapphire too. I had to convince my Fiance it was okay to not buy me a diamond (and he was thrilled when the wedding band I picked out had diamonds on it). Noone has said anything to me. My friends and family have all said it suited me (which it does). His family seemed a little surprised that it wasn’t a diamond, but seemed to accept it pertty well once they realized that it was what I wanted. I like the color, I like that he didn’t spend multiple mortgage payments on my ring. I like that my ring doesn’t look like every other engagement ring that I see.