(Closed) To all non-diamond ladies

posted 10 years ago in Rings
Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I don’t have a colored stone, but this post really resonated with me.  My ring actually does have diamondS -20 miniature baguettes amounting to less than a 1/4 carat, and BOY people are RUDE!  “Is that a promise ring?”  “Bitch, I just SAID I’m ENGAGED..and I’m 30 years old!  What in the hell do I need a PROMISE ring for??  He gave me an engagement ring which is his promise to marry me!”  I was never a lover of solitaires, and so I chose and open heart bordered with diamonds -it really is lovely & wasn’t as cheap as people think it was.  Plus, I got to wear the matching necklace & earrings at my wedding.  I just can’t believe people.  If you don’t have somethng nice to say…

Post # 33
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

It’s really irritating that people make such rude comments about non-diamond engagement rings.  As others have said, the diamond engagement ring is a relatively new delveopment and was created by a corporation to make money.  Anyone who knows anything about jewlery knows that a good quality natural sapphire or ruby can be more rare and cost more than a diamond.

In anyone starts talking about your fiance not being able to afford a diamond engagement ring, just point out that plenty of princesses in Europe have received gemstone engagement rings: Princess Diana – Sapphire, Sarah Duchess of York – Ruby, Princess Mary of Denmark – Ruby, Marie-Chantal and Tatiana (newly engaged) of Greece – both sapphires.

The idea that an engagement ring MUST be a diamond (solitare) is only really in the U.S. as De Beers targed the U.S. audience for their marketing campaign.

Post # 34
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

@allihappy:  We did not have engagement rings at all, and our wedding rings are plain gold bands.  However, at my age (56), I think I’m too fearsome to get any comments about my lack of diamonds.

Post # 35
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Your ring is going to be absolutely STUNNING~!  I want to see pictures when it’s done!

My engagement ring has a blue topaz with a halo… because that’s exactly what I wanted!    I’ve never had a snarky comment about it; people who know me have said that it suits me perfectly and strangers tell me how gorgeous it is ALL the time (it’s very eye-catching).

The only thing I’ve noticed with a coloured stone rather than a diamond is that people don’t automatically assume it’s an engagement ring, but personally, I find that to be a non-issue.

Post # 36
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2010

That tourmaline is GORGEOUS!  I would definitely recommend checking out the colored stones forum on pricescope.com because the people there know their stuff and will be extremely helpful about finding a setting that will accentuate your ring (the Katie Holmes one should do so beautifully!) and will also discuss factors to consider for its long-term care since it is a bit more delicate than other stones. 

I have a light blue sapphire (that shifts to pale purple in certain lights) and a lot of people wonder what the stone is, particularly since it’s not the traditional deep blue color of a sapphire.  Apart from one guy at my school who didn’t realize that an e-ring could not contain a diamond, everyone’s been quite complimentary.  Looking forward to seeing your finished ring!

Post # 37
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I have a Ceylon Sapphire with diamonds in the band and havent really received any rude comments, but I have had quite a few people (mostly customers at work) ask if it’s an engagement ring. It’s on my left hand ring finger…I wouldnt think I’d need to explain it, but not really a rude question either. I think I might have been asked once if it was what I wanted (but not directly asked if I wanted a diamond instead) and after a confident “yes, it’s exactly what I wanted,” they seemed satisfied and said it was pretty and unique. 

I do receive a lot of compliments on it and many people have told me that Fi has great taste (I opt not to inform them that I picked it out myself;) 

Post # 38
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I just got engaged with a yellow sapphire, which is what i wanted, and yes i’ve gotten a few nasty comments. Just hours after I got engaged one of our friends told me ‘its nice, but it doesnt look like an engagement ring’ and i do get that often. but i’ve also had a lot of positive responses from people saying how unique it was and how they wish they had decided to go with something different. I wouldnt change it, who says you have to have a diamond? whats so special about them anymore when you and a million other wome have some on your finger?

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Post # 39
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Helper bee

I have a topaz as well! Woot!

 

I adore my ring, I never would have felt ethical wearing a diamond and I love that money doesn’t matter to me. So far no one has said anything unkind, although a couple of people have assumed it was a blue diamond which I found amusing. 

Post # 41
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2011

LOVE that color!!! i have a diamond mostly bc i get bored of one color easily. so colorless was my only way to ensure i didnt get bored of the color. (Im currently in a everything purple phase and the last phase was green) but i tire of it in a year or two.

Post # 42
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Newbee

@anywhos09 that is gorgeous! I love the East-West setting look. I have a question for you: Is that an oval shape set horizontally or a cushion cut?

Post # 43
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Newbee

@anywhos09 that is gorgeous! I love the East-West setting look. I have a question for you: Is that an oval shape set horizontally or a cushion cut?

Post # 44
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Busy bee

There is a whole world of beautiful gems- and they are especially beautiful when masterfully cut. My boyfriend did the same thing- he bought a yellow sapphire last year because the perfect gem is hard to find. We are actually in the process of getting it re-cut.

The only weird comment I got was a girlfriend asking if it was a “pre-engagement” ring. Though, she has a promise ring herself- so I don’t think it was meant to be nasty- she just thinks that you will most likely get a promise ring first I guess. Maybe it’s a cultural difference.

To tell you the truth, although I love my sapphire- I wished I had known about the world of other gems before choosing. There are some beauties out there!

Post # 45
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Rock the color! And I envy all you women who look good in yellow. I could never pull off a yellow sapphire, diamond, or tourmaline.

I have a blue sapphire center stone with two little diamonds on either side. It’s in a classic trellis setting and I *love* it. People have generally been nice and supportive, especially when I say we picked it out together. My poor fiance had postponed the proposal because he didn’t know what kind of ring I wanted! So he proposed without one, and then we went and found the engagement ring together.

The only comment that’s really gotten to me is “Oh, well that’s good, because you could get such a big one!” I was like — um, this cost just as much as a diamond, it’s ethically sourced (as are the tiny Canadian diamonds), and I love sapphires (It’s not about the size 🙂

But some people do think it’s my birthstone. Good reasons for a blue stone are:

— Blue represents fidelity, love, and faith

— It’s lucky (you are wearing your ‘something blue’ already)

— Royal precedent

— A colored stone marks you as modern and unique or old-school traditional, whichever you choose

— It goes with jeans!

Post # 46
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I have a yellow sapphire in my e-ring, and I haven’t had anything too snarky yet.  A few people have confused it with a canary diamond, since it is a paler yellow.  My Future Mother-In-Law asked me if it was my birthstone (which would be garnet), and I’ve had to explain to a few people that yellow just makes me happy, but it hasn’t been too bad.  Maybe because I’m an artist, people expect me to be crazy and different.

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