(Closed) To all of you that are already married – Did any of you HATE your wedding day?

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Post # 46
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Blushing bee

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hope1981 :  I feel your pain totally… ::hugs::

Post # 47
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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Rowanberry :  I hear you, girl! Although our circumstances were quite different, the feelings were quite mutual

Post # 48
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Helper bee

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hope1981 :  I’m sorry bee. I also despised my wedding day. It makes me sad, because I remember when we first got engaged I couldn’t care less about the wedding- I just wanted to be husband and wife already. Like many others here somehow the sweet courthouse elopement turned into a traditional, large wedding. On the day of I found out my Mother-In-Law invited a person she shouldn’t have and I was so stressed out I freakin lost it. The hours leading up to my wedding were me and my Mother-In-Law yelling and crying at each other. We literally had to stop arguing so we wouldn’t be late to the ceremony. I was completely tapped out by the time I got there and wasn’t present at all the entire time. My Mother-In-Law and I have since made up but that day still brings me pain 4 years later. I wish the day could’ve been about us getting married, not a huge, expensive party for everyone else.

If I could do it again, I would go to the courthouse without telling anyone. I’d put on a pretty dress and we’d get married and then have a photoshoot somewhere and be giddy about our secret for the rest of the day. Then we’d use the money that would’ve been spent on a wedding on an incredible honeymoon. When we got back we’d tell everyone and host a reception – where they’d be no pressure- a month later. 

Hindsight is 20/20 I guess. Darling Husband says we will have a vow renewal with just the two of us one day but I’m not sure it’ll help anything.

Post # 49
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Nope. It was the best day ever, and I’d happily relive every single day, if that were possible.

Post # 50
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I didn’t HATe it, but I do get sad when I think of what I dreamed of vs. what I had. 

My venue changed coordinators 3 months before my big day and they hired a 25 year old waiter to replace the experienced planner they had. He royally messed up in many ways on my day and made it miserable for me.

My cake design was wrong, including the wrong color ribbon

My gf cupcakes became a gf cake, which would have been fine but I was never told so had a cake with a flavor I hated! 

My bridal attendant was asking me where to put my decor when I gave him a detailed list.

They forgot to put a bartender at the downstairs bar and my father in law had to go make drinks for people.

My food trays for family pictures outside (during cocktail hour) never came out, so we had no food. 

And the big problem……..the chef somehow did not know i was gluten-free, which i explained many many many times over and over again and even confirmed the tuesday prior. I found this out when we went to our bridal suite to eat some cocktail hour food after pictures and they only had food for my husband. I was informed by my bridal attendant that the chef didn’t know. Then as i was waiting on line to go into the reception, the coordinator informed me they sent someone to Shoprite to get me my pasta.

My family also showed up early which cut into my picture time with my husband and we couldn’t get shots on the property we wanted because of it

Myphotographer missed a lot of important shots. 

My dj forgot to announce my popcorn bar which in turn no one knew about and it was all wasted (it was also my favors) 

Overall, i married the love of my life and thats whats most important. None of my guests knew of any of this and we had a beautiful ceremony! 

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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kelly22790 :   Considering our small and fairly simple wedding, I was stunned at how much went wrong.   Our guests had a wonderful time even so, and we had good weather so we could have it outdoors, which was lovely.  

Post # 52
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I did not hate it but I never got a chance to relax. Some people expect too much from brides and don’t know how to leave a bride alone or just support her. It is very hard to sit back and enjoy it as a special day. I tried so hard not to be demanding AT ALL and to be accommodating in fact but apparently it wasn’t enough for some people. But I can say that none of my planning went wrong and my husband loved it and loves me that much more for it. He is really the only one whose opinion I actually care about anyway, at least regarding the wedding. And there were other guests who were so nice, I just feel like those are the only guests who deserved to be there but there is nothing I can do about the assholes who didn’t deserve to be there. 

Post # 53
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

there were small things that peeved me on my wedding day, but nothing huge. 

i had 2 chalkboard signs that were made. One was suppose to go with the guestbook and another at the church. But because Darling Husband got sick on our wedding day, he had the groomsman drop the stuff of without knowing what went where. 

turns out the guestbook sign ended up in the church and the church sign ended up at the reception entrance. Now everytime i look back at wide shot photos of us in the church during our ceremony i cringe at that stupid sign sitting in the corner of the photos. 

no one, not even my mother, noticed the mix up, but it still irks me to this day. 

 

we also had a whole table of guest not show up to the reception, who all had rsvp’d. So that kind of peeved me and the Darling Husband simply because that one table (food, setting,etc) probably cost us a couple hundred down the drain. 

 

and lastly but in the end it turned out fine, was Darling Husband got food poisoning on the day of our wedding, he was really sick the majority of the day, almost left half way through the reception. But ended up sticking it out and having a good time, so that all worked out in the end.

Post # 54
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

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MrsBuesleBee :  agree.  The only people IRL I know who hate their wedding days were people who were bullied in to having a wedding they didn’t want (they would have eloped if it weren’t for their parents–her mother, mostly) and then the same people who bullied them into having a “real” wedding continued to criticize them over everything anyway.  And of course contributed $0.

Post # 55
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Worker bee

I didn’t necessarily hate my wedding day but if I could go back and do it over I would do things way differently in a heartbeat! Surpringly, Darling Husband feels the same. We actually have talked about making sure we do a vow renewal for our 5 year anniversary with just us two at the beach since it was what we originally wanted our wedding to be. There are many things I hate about how my wedding day went but oh well, it is done.

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Helper bee

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Markinu :  Thank you…it sucks.

Post # 57
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Helper bee

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FutureMrsHoneybee :  Right. I get not wanting a vow renewal. That’s not what it’s about for me – I loved our vows! I just hate the regret I feel. But it does fade the further I get from it. 

Post # 58
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I actually just posted a story on here explaining my wedding. I hated my wedding but I try to keep thinking about how happy I am with my husband because in the end that’s really all that matters even if our wedding day wasn’t perfect.

Post # 59
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Cambridge Mill

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k8goeslz :  I agree! Our day went very smoothly until around 11:30PM when I fell pretty hard on the dance floor LOL – I am still a bit resentful towards my seamstress over it because my dress was not hemmed enough but I only feel this way because it just happened and my neck is still killing me. Once the pain is gone it will be just a laughable moment to look back on. I got up and kept dancing and didn’t let it ruin my night. It did affect my mood for the few days after when we went away, simply because I was in pain. Happy we decided to wait until November for our Honeymoon!

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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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kelly22790 :  How sweet, you’re getting married on my birthday!!!! I must say a lot of things went wrong on my day but I still enjoyed it for the most part. I forgot my veil, hair wasnt fixed the way I wanted, didn’t get some of the decorations I wanted, didn’t get to do our unity candle, my husband didn’t get to ride in the horse drawn carriage, uninvited guest showed up, my mother behaved badly and left early, I could go on and on BUT I WON’T. Nothing is perfect and so we just made the best of it. What mattered the most to me was the man of my dreams waiting for me at the end of the aisle. Find your almost perfect moments and hang on to them. CONGRATULATIONS!

 

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