To all the men who wo’t propose because of ring money

posted 1 year ago in Proposals
Post # 2
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235 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2023

ITS not just men though. I’ve seen woman who get so damn picky about rings and the proposal. I could never marry someone so high maintenance about things. 

Post # 3
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863 posts
Busy bee

zenith :  Same. I’m sure no one believes me when I say this (because ::gasp:: who doesn’t spend their max budget on a ring), but we could’ve afforded a ring 10x the price of my engagement ring. We’re way too pratical for that though. We rather travel the world. 

It kills me to see ring-buyers going into debt or ring-receivers being so demanding. The gemstone (or non-gemstone) options are endless and come in all shapes, sizes and price points. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee

janna121215 :  we’re on a simalr boat, FH set a 2k budget for my ering and spent less than half on the whole set! 

I love Cardi B like as a person, I’m so happy for her! <3

Post # 5
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319 posts
Helper bee

A lot of men see the ring as their ability to provide so as much as women may say they don’t need a ring or a fancy ring, he may feel as a man, he needs to be able to provide a ring that’s good enough for him. 

Not every man is like that of course but it is a legitimate concern for a lot of them. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

The diamond industry pushes us to make ridiculous purchases. And I agree much of it comes from the expectations we place on men. 3 months salary? F**k that. I would DIE if I had a ring worth 3 months salary on my finger. Sorry, but I would rather….BUY A HOUSE OR ANYTHING ELSE

I would have been happy with a Burger Ring (to all non Aussies, they’re this delicious snack, you are all poorer for not having them in your life). Fiance wanted a diamond ring. I set a limit and made him stick to it.

As it is I’m uncomfortable with how much my ring cost, and it was nothing ($5k) compared to some Bees…

 

Post # 7
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763 posts
Busy bee

janna121215 :  Right?! My FH expected me to demand a 30-40k ring but let me choose my own diamond and setting. He was shocked when I showed him what I came up with on James Allen- a ring that was less than 3k. I think people expect surgeons wives to be rolling in the bling, especially the second wife. No. I’m not marrying him for money and I’d be furious if he was so irresponsible with his money as to purchase me a ring worth as much as a car. I love ogling at large beautiful rings on this site but I love them on other fingers, not mine and not suited for my lifestyle. I’d rather spend our money traveling, which we frequently do. And even then we try to fly cheap. Maybe I’m stingy but I like it this way. I just don’t understand why anyone would go into DEBT for a ring… What a way to start a marriage- more debt? 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2020

Society needs to reflect back to select childhood movies. “Pebble and the Penguin” illustrates that ‘it is not the shape, size or colour of the “pebble” that matters but, instead, the “penguin”.’ 🐧

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

We married in our mid late 20s comfortably off with good careers that we worked hard to get. My husband gave me what I thought was a stupendous ( and stupid) budget for a ring but I wanted him to design something that I would love and it ended up to be 1/4 of the budget he offered. There was just too much more we could do with that money and we did!

Post # 10
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1975 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

My husband could’ve afforded a super expensive ring but I inherited a ring which has been in his family 160 years. He would rather give me something irreplaceable and not have me as the victim of a mugging.

I don’t see the value in diamonds.. so right and that’s so many girls want huge rings to show off to their friends 

Post # 11
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Newbee

Minus the fact her husband cheated on her countless times but good on her for not demanding her man to buy her a ring to prove how much he loves her. Men like that show their love and loyalty through other ways clearly. innocent

 

You shouldn’t have to feel the NEED to spend 1k+ on a ring. But my fiance spends countless dollars on his personal hobbies. He probably spends 10k+ on his personal collection items + hobbies a year. If he proposed without a ring or a cheap ring I would of said no. If your man has no problem spending thousands on himself but has a problem with spending money on dates, birthday presents, RINGS THAT SYMBOLIZE MARRIAGE. WELL. Idk what to tell you. Couldn’t be me. There are so many pick-me b*tches in the world and that’s how you end up with cardi. Pregnant with a husband who cheats left and right. What an iconic couple. 

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

zenith :  THIS.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

hbraerae :  this is so true. of course there are men stalling and using the ring cost as an excuse to not propose, but in my experience many other men see the ring purchase as a source of pride. 

Post # 14
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Worker bee

Unfortuately it is what society has changed what the true meaning of marriage is. Marriage is supposed to be about spending the rest of your life with someone you love.  Building a family together. Supporting each other. Just living an amazing journey together with many happy memories.

Now so many people are more interested in what comes before the marriage rather than the actual marriage.  They want the perfect proposal with a huge ring and a big expensive wedding.  If you can afford it then that is great. I just don’t think two people that are supposed to build a life together should start it off by breaking the bank just to be married.

 

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