Post # 1
Let me just punch all of you in the face with reality. I hear at least once a day something along those line ” I want to have twins/ having twins would be so much fun” etc. Ladies, let this serve as a Public Service Announcement to your health: Do NOT approach a super pregnant with twins woman and say any of the above. Babies are blessing and I am SO lucky to be pregnant at all. However when I am hunched over my desk holding myself because they are kicking me so hard it actually hurts I don’t wanna hear any of that. I don’t really care how big/small you think I am, that you think Abby and Addy would be funny names for them, that you hear having twins messes up your vagina ( yes someone ACTUALLY said this to me) or I shouldn’t be drinking a Coke/sitting down/breathing air because you heard it was harmful.
babies are blessing so this is a double blessing, but for your health please do not approach someone pregnant with multiples and say any of the above. If you do well…. you can’t hold my liable for my actions : D
Post # 3
@mixtapehearts: I am not pregnant with twins… At least we don’t know yet. I just wanted to come and cheer you on. Sorry to hear you’re finding people hard, I am not looking forward to that part of pregnancy. Everyone giving you their two cents worth !! ……. Also I have my fingers crossed there only one baby growing in there because my Darling Husband is a twin; and I JUST KNOW. My crazy mother in law would drive me bananas with her holier than thou I know everything about twins and you’re doing it wrong approach O_o best of luck with the rest of your pregnancy xo
Post # 4
@mixtapehearts: I certainly don’t think twins would be easy, but we only want 2 kids. I’d love to just have to be pregnant once. By the sounds of it, I sure don’t want to be pregnant twice, lol.
Post # 5
When I was little, I always wanted to HAVE a twin, just to have a sibling who I shared a special bond with and who was my age. However, the thought of having two little babies kicking me from the inside for months on end doesn’t sound so great. Also, someone told you your lady parts were going to get messed up? I hope they said it over the phone because that is deserving of a beat down!
Post # 6
@BoxerLady: I agree. I’m currently 6.5 months pregnant with ONE and the idea of only doing this once and getting our full desired two babies… still kinda appealing. Especially since we had some fertility issues, so it would be nice to be able to guarantee this one won’t be an only child.
Post # 8
@mixtapehearts: I never understand this attitude! Both my SO and I are genetically predisposed to multiples, so there’s a decent chance I’m going to wind up having twins when I do have kids. I’ve actually had people get offended when I reply with a resounding “No!” when they ask if I’m excited for that. Having one looks hard enough, thank you!
Post # 9
I think you hear all of that from people whether you are having twins or now. Everyone has an opinion.
Post # 10
@Swizzle: True story. Pregnant women are easy targets for unsolicited comments and advice.
Post # 11
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@mixtapehearts: Bravo! My cousin has three sets of twins- two fraternal and one identical. She was on bedrest from 6 weeks until she delivered early. She had to worry about the kind of sac they had (shared or non), whether they had their own placentas or not, and whether or not her cerclage would hold. People don’t understand that a twin pregnancy is HARD- harder than a singleton pregnancy by far. Plus, they are so much riskier than singleton pregnancies. You get nothing but applause from me, lady.
Post # 12
Both sides of our families have skipped a generation of twins. So it’s like this big joke… and I’ve never been pregnant and still want to roundhouse someone to the face when they make these comments.
I can’t imagine how you feel!
Post # 13
While I feel your pain on people’s unsolicited advice, I think that a lot of woman want twins because they want 2 babies and just want to get it over and done with at one time. The idea of only having one pregnany and one birth (technically it’s 2 but the whole process is only once) is very appealing to most people, myself included. It sounds like you’re just having a rough day though but how about not scolding people for wanting something that they very likely won’t get to have and are just voicing that they think you’re lucky…even if you don’t feel so lucky 🙂
Post # 14
I’m a twin, and my mom says that having us was the worst thing ever, because her body was seriously messed up from us. 90 percent of her health problems today stem from having twins over 20 years ago.
And I hate being a twin haha. To make it even better on her, i’m completely ungrateful haha!
So yeah, no one should be wishing they were having twins. But congrats anyways! I’m sure you wil be a wonderful mother. And I think pregnant ladies should get the right to punch people in the face, since people seem to think they get the right to judge them on every bit of their pregnancy!
Post # 15
@Swizzle: This. I’m almost 9 months pregnant with 1 baby, and I hear it all the time too. When I was around 4 months pregnant, a co-worker made me feel unreasonably bad about drinking a diet coke.
My Dr. has taken me off work this week due to high bp, which I have kept a secret from everyone other than immediate family, because I don’t want to hear the stories about “oh, I worked up until my water broke!” Well, that’s what I was planning to do, but my body has other plans.
So, I can sympathize with you, but I think it happens whether you are having one or five…people just can’t seem to keep their mouths shut!
Post # 16
Lol. Pregnancy in general fascinates me, but if there’s ONE thing I’ve learned from the Bee it is to be very respectful of a woman and her pregnancy because everyone handles it differently. CONGRATS on twins, how exciting! Two very good friends of mine are twins and they’re also best friends, I always thought how cool it was that they always had each other.