- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
Okay, so I’ve always found the advice on here to be really helpful, plus I can post crazy things (ttc soon!!) and no one treats me like a lunatic. So I wondered if I could have some advice from newlyweds/marrieds. Basically the wedding isn’t that far away and I’m already worried. My main worries are: people won’t turn up (even though we’ve had all rsvp’s back), my mum/close family won’t enjoy the day, I won’t get to spend anytime with FI, and that I’m going to feel a mess/self conscious all day.
So I have quite a small family, and FI has quite a big family. My guests are mainly friends, though my family are fantastic and coming of course. My FI’s guests are family-only – he invited so many family that we had to ask his friends to the evening only. Both of us are fine with that, but I’m worried there’ll be a really big divide, or my family won’t get along with his because they’ll be outnumbered, or vice versa. I’m also worried that since I have a smaller guestlist than he, if some of my friends don’t turn up (which I don’t think they would, but I’m still worried about it) that it’ll be really obvious. FI and my mum both say I should stop looking at it like that, everyone’s coming for US (not him/me) but I can’t help worrying.
We had an engagement party where I hardly saw my FI or family or close friends, I was too busy worrying about everyone not dancing, did they have drink, did they have food, blah blah. I said I wouldn’t do it at the wedding, but now it’s coming up, I can see that I’m totally going to be worried about people not having a good time. Again.
And lastly I’m quite self conscious. I LOVE my dress, I’m quite thin, but very body conscious. I’m getting hair done by my hairdresser, makeup done by someone I used before. And I’m still worried its going to go wrong. Please bees, give me tips to enjoy my day?!