- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
I generally don’t post to the waiting boards. I’ll peruse them from time to time. But I feel like I have to put this out there. This is for the girls who KNOW a proposal is imminent.
1 – RELAX! You know it’s coming, right? You’ve shopped, he’s ordered it, etc. Just be patient. Don’t go into every situation expecting it to happen. You guys take a vacation or it’s your 5 year anniversary. You EXPECT it to happen. And when it doesn’t, you’re disappointed. If that’s the case, the onus is on you. Not him.
2 – Consider the pressure on your guy!! He’s spending a lot of money, he’s working on making the proposal special. That’s stressful! Don’t exacerbate the whole situation by putting additional, unwarranted pressure on him.
3 – Don’t resent your guy. It’s up to him to make it happen. And that means he has the control. He will propose when he wants, where he wants, and how he wants. If you want that control, then you can propose!
4 – Don’t start planning your wedding. I know some people say it’s ok, but I disagree. Personally, I think it just adds to your crazy! Because you’ll start seeing stuff you like, you know you want it… but you can’t have it now because you’re not engaged yet and you don’t have a date and when is it going to happen so you can order those save the dates, and pick out centerpieces and try on dresses and… you get my drift!
5 – Finally, when the time does come, if you’ve considered all of the above, it will be all the more special. You’re guy will have had the time to make it perfect, you haven’t been killing yourself with worry and anticipation. You will yell “YES!” And hug and kiss and celebrate and it will be among one of the best experiences in your life. Then you can go bonkers over planning the wedding! 🙂
I don’t know if this is going to help, but I hope it does. Bottom line, the proposal and engagement, it’s an important and special time in your lives as a couple. Don’t ruin it with high expectations, big let-downs, disappointment, etc. Because it’s all good stuff, no matter if it happens tomorrow or 2 months from now.
Best of luck you all you chickadees!