(Closed) To ask or not to ask

posted 9 years ago in Themes
Post # 3
401 posts
Helper bee

She doesn’t have a copyright on the color.  You’re fine.  Have a lovely wedding!!!!

Post # 4
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think it will be fine, especially since it isn’t a major color for your wedding.  Go for it!

Post # 5
653 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t think it is wrong for you to use it considering your wedding is after hers. (I could see a bigger problem if your wedding was before her or if it was going to be your primary color) But if you are concerned about your Future Sister-In-Law being upset it would probably be nice to ask her just to make sure.

Post # 6
6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Is your other main colour vibrant? If your colour is pink and you are adding navy (her colour) I think it is fine not to ask and just go ahead.

However, if your main colour is champagne and you are added navy (her colour) I think it is polite to ask.

On another note entirely some people are a lot more picky than I am in regards to “Claiming” things for their weddings so maybe it would be a good idea to ask her no matter what. I am sure she will say yes but she will also appreciate you asking.

Good Luck

Post # 7
39 posts
  • Wedding: August 2009

In my opinion, you’re totally fine using the color. It’s not as if there are a million and one colors in the world, repeats are bound to happen even with friends and family. Use the color and don’t bother asking! I would be weirded out if someone asked me if they could use my wedding colors. Maybe if they used all, and only, the same exact colors but one color? No problem! Have fun planning!

Post # 8
677 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I see no reason to ask permission – but if you can deal with the fact that she may have a negative reaction to "sharing" feel free to ask her!

Post # 9
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I don’t think it is wrong for you to use one of her colors as an accent, and I don’t think that you need to ask her permission; however, if it were me, I would ask her if she minded you using it, just to be polite and make sure she knows that you are not trying to upstage her. I am sure that she will be fine with it and I am sure she would appreciate the courtesy of you asking.

Post # 10
2765 posts
Sugar bee

It really depends on the color… some colors are more common than others, and I doubt she’d feel proprietary about it.  But other colors are more unique, and end up impacting the flower and centerpiece choices – which means a color choice can spill over into other design decisions!

Post # 11
1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Since her wedding is 3 months before, you are not stealing any attention from her wedding. I think you should use the color.  You can mention it, if you see fit, but don’t ask for permission.

Post # 12
3871 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I wouldn’t be offended and since you aren’t using it as the main color, I would actually love it.  Then me being a DIY bride, I would love to pawn off some of my wedding decorations off to you. hehe

On the otherhand, I don’t know how she will feel. I have to admit, in college, I bought a shirt and my roommate ended buying the same shirt in the same color and I was a bit annoyed.  (Then again it was college so I was a bit self centered) LOL

anyway, I don’t think you have to ask her.  Maybe tell her that you love that color and that you were going to use that color as an accent.  She can’t be mad at you if you already knew ahead of time that you were going to have that color.

What some girls might get mad at is if you saw her color and wanted to compete with her.  Which I doubt that is going on here.  I see that you are already concerned about her feelings and you aren’t doing it to show off… then you are good.

What are your colors?

Post # 14
2404 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@railroad- yikes, i’m sorry to hear that she is taking such offense to you using a similar color as hers. can u still use a different shade of the color? what is this infamous color if i may ask? ((( hugs )))

Post # 15
2779 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Ouch! I’m sorry she ended up shooting you down like that. I think you’re doing the right thing by just avoiding the drama and going in a different direction altogether. 

Post # 16
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m really curious what the colour is too!  I can see feeling a little territorial if it’s a really offbeat colour, but if it’s a neutral (cream… chocolate brown) I don’t really think that’s fair.

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